Guitarisgood Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I've gone through a dry period with woman. After being burnt so many times - girl you're seeing going back to the ex, girl you're seeing kissing another guy when you're out in a friends setting, dates after that have fizzled i.e. was just dating for the sake of dating, I feel I've basically built up a wall I cannot even climb. As such I made it my excuse to simply pursue other interests - hobbies sports etc. But things don't pan out as well as I have planned as is life. I have a very wide social circle and many female friends whom I keep in regular contact and go out with hence it was easy for me to simply put the dating game behind me without a thought. But now, things are slowly creeping in. Yet I've lost all confidence in myself. When I'm out at night I am the wimpiest of the group. I am in regular contact with a few girls I 'like' but don't have the 'guts' I guess to actually ask them out. Furthermore a coworker (don't worry, just a student summer job so no biggie) has come back from studying overseas where she broke up with her boyfriend then. She is admittedly the chick I am head over heels for yet all we do is flirt and tease and I don't have the guts to get her number let alone ask her out. So anyone here, how have you got yourself back into the game after a while out of it? What do I need to do to get essentially, my mojo back? Cheers.
George R Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I've been through your situation many times. Here's my idea. Join an online dating site. The difference on a dating site is EVERYONE there has an expectation of going on dates. When you contact a woman, she is automatically viewing you as a potential date; there is no misunderstanding about that. Online dating could help rebuild your confidence. Good luck.
Tayken Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 So anyone here, how have you got yourself back into the game after a while out of it? What do I need to do to get essentially, my mojo back? Yes...the lost "mojo". OK....here it is, self esteem and communication is paramount. I am going to assume that you are aware that women like a well dressed man? Appearance is key as nobody wants to be seen with a slob / hobo. Once you have that in check, then you have to pick up the self confidence of actually being able to struck up a conversation with the opposite sex. You can try it out at the grocery store / bookstore by just striking up a small talk about a book, or a product that seems like a good deal. Easily said than done I hear you say, but the more you work on it, the better you get. Always think...you have a 50/50 chance at a response, and the worst that can happen is that she blows you off. Make sure you pay compliments and maintain eye contact Good luck...women like an alpha male and one with confidence.
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