Issues with dating an older man?

[Iguanna]

The fact that he constantly asks you whether you are sure about this does not mean that he respects you more or less in any way. It may very well be an act to make you believe it was your decision the whole time. It's like other women tell their married men "this is so wrong, I can't take the guilt, just go back to your wife" only to hear the men saying "what are you saying? I don't want my wife, it's you I love", so the other women believe they've made their duty and they are not to blame anymore.

 

This man knows that you have been abused in the past and he is playing this game really well, telling you what you want to hear, making you think that you are old enough to make your life's decisions, playing the good guy. If he was really a good guy and if he truly loved you, he would let you date young guys close to your age, live your life, go to school, making a career, have friends etc. He would not try to put you in a situation that is supposed to happen in 10+ years from now ( = marriage, maybe kids). I'd suggest that you try to work on your psychological problems, solve them and then proceed with big decisions in life.

[Mascara]

There's nothing wrong with a 17 year age gap if that's what you want.... IF you were mid 20s upwards. Plenty of posters here who are 25/26/27 and have had relationships with men of 42/43/44.

 

The ONLY issue is that you are 17. That makes him very very creepy, because it means he's attracted to someone with absolutely no adult years on this planet.

 

Now you may THINK that you've been through a lot and that you're emotionally mature. I did too at 17. But trust me, you will get to 30 and realise that right now, you know nothing. And I don't mean that as an insult.... it's just that you have no knowledge, no experience of being an adult. Everything you have experienced has been as a child.

 

These are the years that you should be discovering with your peers. If you like older men, wait until you're in your 20s.