soulz Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 What type of a person is this? She has never maintained any friendships from high school or college. She treats people disposably. Doesn’t make any effort to mend a broken friendship. Does what is most convenient to her even if it leaves her lonely, even though that is her biggest fear. She has no real friends she can confide in. She comes from a broken family where her dad cheats on her mom and yet the mother doesn’t leave. The brother left her house and has cut off all contact from her family. On her mother’s side of the family, she doesn’t know who her grandfather is coz apparently he bailed on her grandmother when she got pregnant. In a romantic relationship, she gives her partner her all. She has no real hobbies. Can grow an interest in whatever her partner is interested in. kind of like the most perfect girl friend. Always ready for anything sexual And Always does the sweetest things to keep the partners interest. But as soon as she is out of love, she destroys the partner to the degree where she easily forgets about every friendship they built together. She also relationship hops. She has cheated in her past relationship viciously. Still tries to manipulate her ex by saying she wants to be friends etc and that she misses his friendship. When the chips are down she can do anything manipulative to get the person back. She will tell the person what he wants to hear. Not what she actually feels? She only feels and acts based on how it would make her feel better. As a person She can move from one opinion to the other within minutes. She is highly impulsive and will do things for the thrill of it without considering any repercussions. She is also very mistrusting of people in general. So my question is.. what type of a person do u think this is? how can such a perfect girlfriend be so strange as a human ? Is it an act? Is she a narcissist? Is she worth it?
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 She sounds wonderful. A real keeper. You've got a dead cert there..... Never mind what type of a girl she is....that's immaterial. The question is, are you willing to deal with it? 1
Emilia Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 So my question is.. what type of a person do u think this is? how can such a perfect girlfriend be so strange as a human ? Is it an act? Is she a narcissist? Is she worth it? No she isn't worth it. Check out borderline personality disorder. 5
Shepp Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I dont really understand the question - people are people, not types? And you can't diagnose someone as anything based on that. I was just going to say: She has no real hobbies. Can grow an interest in whatever her partner is interested in. kind of like the most perfect girl friend For real? That would be a massive turn off for me. Certainly not something that would make a girl the most perfect girl friend in my book 1
Haydn Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Shep, i like your posts but everyone is a type. (Maybe) I dont really understand the question - people are people, not types? And you can't diagnose someone as anything based on that. I was just going to say: For real? That would be a massive turn off for me. Certainly not something that would make a girl the most perfect girl friend in my book
darkmoon Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 (edited) spoiled child as an adult, somebody made her expect to get her own way (perhaps to comfort her) and she isnow getting her own way, whatever she wants, too, she also sounds ambitious if she dumps friends, I suspect they are of no use to her Edited January 20, 2014 by darkmoon
Arieswoman Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I'm not sure what the question really is. Are you seriously considering a relationship of some kind with this person? If so then check out these red flags, She also relationship hops. She has cheated in her past relationship viciously. Still tries to manipulate her ex by saying she wants to be friends etc and that she misses his friendship. When the chips are down she can do anything manipulative to get the person back.As a person She can move from one opinion to the other within minutes. She is highly impulsive and will do things for the thrill of it without considering any repercussions. 2
Shepp Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Shep, i like your posts but everyone is a type. (Maybe) You think? But the are we always the same type or are we different things to different people? The guys I play football with and race probably see me as a bit of a jock, probably think I wanna be large and in charge. The guys I work with probably see me as loyal, humble (although referring to yourself as humble is pretty ironic ) , happy to make other people look good. My gf again Im sure sees a totally different type, cause she doesn't care how fast I can drive or badly I surf, I was the guy who sat next to her in class and would of done anything to get a laugh, was there when she needed me to be and would of given walking on water a fair shot if she'd asked it of me And to my sons I'm just the geezer that gives them there food and pushes there pram and begs them to stop crying at 4:30 in the morning. Can you really be one type of thing to everyone? (im not saying you can't I'm just thinking out loud) If I saw my gf as the same 'type' as near on everyone else did I probably wouldn't of waited on her for 4 years, but I saw a different kinda girl to what they did. That said I do believe in that MBTI personality types thing, which I guess means there 16 main types of personalities that very on fits into. I agree with that but I also think the types are quite broad. IMHO I don't think you can give someone a steryotypical type - jock, geek, airhead....or maybe you can but you definetly need way more that what's in this OP, which is at its core one humans personal opinion of the on side they see of someone else. I think the type of person you are remains the same at its core but life can definetly shape the way people act and what they show of there personality so it's hard to make a judgment on someone else less you really understand how they've got where they've got... ....I dunno I've probably taken this thread off topic but I think it's an intresting subject, personality. 1
Emilia Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 The guys I play football with and race probably see me as a bit of a jock, probably think I wanna be large and in charge. The guys I work with probably see me as loyal, humble (although referring to yourself as humble is pretty ironic ) , happy to make other people look good. My gf again Im sure sees a totally different type, cause she doesn't care how fast I can drive or badly I surf, I was the guy who sat next to her in class and would of done anything to get a laugh, was there when she needed me to be and would of given walking on water a fair shot if she'd asked it of me And to my sons I'm just the geezer that gives them there food and pushes there pram and begs them to stop crying at 4:30 in the morning. Can you really be one type of thing to everyone? (im not saying you can't I'm just thinking out loud) Yes in a sense that there are commonalities: stable, home-loving, monogamous, extroverted, having leadership skills, social. They probably all see you this way in general and they have their own personal views on top of that depending on how well they know you. They still see you as a type as in mature and responsible. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 She's a very broken person who gets most of her validation externally. She doesn't know how to form long term commitments with anybody -- hence the lack of friends & the cheating. She only seems like the perfect GF at first because she molds herself to like what he likes but it's not real. She has a very damaged psyche. 5
Author soulz Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 She's a very broken person who gets most of her validation externally. She doesn't know how to form long term commitments with anybody -- hence the lack of friends & the cheating. She only seems like the perfect GF at first because she molds herself to like what he likes but it's not real. She has a very damaged psyche. My god.. u really think it could be that bad? Her moulding couldn't make her fully happy deep inside..wouldn't it take a toll on you to like what somebody else likes?
Emilia Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 My god.. u really think it could be that bad? Her moulding couldn't make her fully happy deep inside..wouldn't it take a toll on you to like what somebody else likes? I would seriously check out borderline personality disorder. A lot of what you have mentioned is consistent with the symptoms and people tend to have the same reaction to it as you do. 3
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Seriously... a girl with no hobbies and will form an interest in her boyfriend's hobbies is 'the perfect girlfriend'!? How boring must that be? Don't you want a partner who can bring equal amounts to the table? Who teaches you stuff about the world and the things she loves instead of just absorbing all of your passions? 5
d0nnivain Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 My god.. u really think it could be that bad? Her moulding couldn't make her fully happy deep inside..wouldn't it take a toll on you to like what somebody else likes? Yes, I think it's that bad. Yes, It would take a huge toll on a person to constantly adapt themselves in a desperate attempt to feel liked. No I don't think she has a clue. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 What type of a person is this? She has never maintained any friendships from high school or college. She treats people disposably. Doesn’t make any effort to mend a broken friendship. Does what is most convenient to her even if it leaves her lonely, even though that is her biggest fear. She has no real friends she can confide in. She comes from a broken family where her dad cheats on her mom and yet the mother doesn’t leave. The brother left her house and has cut off all contact from her family. On her mother’s side of the family, she doesn’t know who her grandfather is coz apparently he bailed on her grandmother when she got pregnant. In a romantic relationship, she gives her partner her all. She has no real hobbies. Can grow an interest in whatever her partner is interested in. kind of like the most perfect girl friend. Always ready for anything sexual And Always does the sweetest things to keep the partners interest. But as soon as she is out of love, she destroys the partner to the degree where she easily forgets about every friendship they built together. She also relationship hops. She has cheated in her past relationship viciously. Still tries to manipulate her ex by saying she wants to be friends etc and that she misses his friendship. When the chips are down she can do anything manipulative to get the person back. She will tell the person what he wants to hear. Not what she actually feels? She only feels and acts based on how it would make her feel better. As a person She can move from one opinion to the other within minutes. She is highly impulsive and will do things for the thrill of it without considering any repercussions. She is also very mistrusting of people in general. So my question is.. what type of a person do u think this is? how can such a perfect girlfriend be so strange as a human ? Is it an act? Is she a narcissist? Is she worth it? She sounds like a real keeper to me. I would be so excited to have her meet my family. Can't wait to slip an engagement ring on her finger. Seriously friend. When you see her coming, get the hell out of the way and give her a wide berth to pass by. She has disaster written all over her and she need some serious help. Don't let her turn you in to her next victim or you'll look like all the other road kills she ran over 2
veggirl Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 how the eff is that the perfect girlfriend? what are your standards for perfect girlfriend? apparently, someone who likes (or at least pretends to) the same stuff as you and someone ready to go for sex whenever? maybe you need to raise your standards. this person sounds like a hot mess. 2
regine_phalange Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 She is a girl with a lot of buggage.. And probably you are going to pay for it. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 She is a girl with a lot of buggage.. And probably you are going to pay for it. She is the type of girl when you see her, you run the other way and avoid her like she has the plague....or the buggage, which calls for a good pest control serum..... oh, regine that made me laugh. No pun intended, I am sure. G 3
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 That's what it's gonna be from now on.... 'buggage'. Perfect 2
Shepp Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Yes in a sense that there are commonalities: stable, home-loving, monogamous, extroverted, having leadership skills, social. They probably all see you this way in general and they have their own personal views on top of that depending on how well they know you. They still see you as a type as in mature and responsible. Yeah, maybe, maybe commonalities (nice word! ) are the thing! I guess I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, I don't like to write people off.. but if you take the text as all you've got then there isn't really much room for doubt. 1
regine_phalange Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 She is the type of girl when you see her, you run the other way and avoid her like she has the plague....or the buggage, which calls for a good pest control serum..... oh, regine that made me laugh. No pun intended, I am sure. G That's what it's gonna be from now on.... 'buggage'. Perfect Oh dear. 2
Author soulz Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 how the eff is that the perfect girlfriend? what are your standards for perfect girlfriend? apparently, someone who likes (or at least pretends to) the same stuff as you and someone ready to go for sex whenever? maybe you need to raise your standards. this person sounds like a hot mess. Maybe u are right actually..
BOREDouttaMymind Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 that's what you would call a female.
almond Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 that's what you would call a female. ...and this is what you would call silly to the point of being funny, with a dash of pity for the poster thrown in.
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