blackpajamas Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Girl I'm dating revealed to me during the exclusivity talk that she cannot do anything serious. Is currently off and on with another guy before me as well. I told her that it is fine for her to do that. She listed a couple reasons why she couldn't do right now. I realize most of these are BS and she just doesn't want a relationship with me. She still wants to hang out/do datey things/be intimate. I've decided it is best for me to pull back off the "relationship" stuff and treat it much more casually than I have. I'm also going to start dating around, since that doesn't seem to a be a big deal. At least I know I have a hookup now across town. Good plan of action? Yea or nay. I don't really want to go completely NC because 1) I'm not emotionally distraught 2) seems like an easy hookup/good time.
deathandtaxes Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Pull back 100%. You tried for exclusivity. She balked. End of story. Have some dignity and don't be strung along. 1
georgecostanza Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 1) I'm not emotionally distraught 2) seems like an easy hookup/good time. Sounds fine to me.
deathandtaxes Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Sounds fine to me. Not fine. He obviously wants something more, or he wouldn't have tried for exclusivity. Now he's going to settle for a chick that doesn't want to make up her mind? That wants to have her cake and eat it? This isn't just something you can deescalate. Asking for exclusivity is a big step forward. OP was rejected plain and simple.
evade Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Girl I'm dating revealed to me during the exclusivity talk that she cannot do anything serious. Is currently off and on with another guy before me as well. I told her that it is fine for her to do that. She listed a couple reasons why she couldn't do right now. I realize most of these are BS and she just doesn't want a relationship with me. She still wants to hang out/do datey things/be intimate. I've decided it is best for me to pull back off the "relationship" stuff and treat it much more casually than I have. I'm also going to start dating around, since that doesn't seem to a be a big deal. At least I know I have a hookup now across town. Good plan of action? Yea or nay. I don't really want to go completely NC because 1) I'm not emotionally distraught 2) seems like an easy hookup/good time. How will u feel when you find out another guy is dicking her? do you think she has something better on the side?
Shashasha Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Hmm..i think you should back off if you don't want to get hurt.
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