Hopeful30 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 (edited) Most women expect the man to buy you flowers, call you or tell you how much he wants this to work. We want men to SHOW they're putting up a fight, to show how much they want us. But lots of men aren't like this. They aren't so expressive or communicative. What are some subtle ways men show they are fighting for you? I'm on a break with my boyfriend (initiated by me) because I'm always doing all the work in the relationship and i'm always initiating all the talks to try to work out our problems. So I told him I needed to think about things because i'm always getting hurt that IM the one trying to fix things and he doesn't do anything. It's been a little more than a week (I still haven't decided) but I've noticed he still talks to me regularly (he always initiates) and he's been doing me favours, buying me lunch when he sees i'm too busy working, sending a text to make sure I'm okay after a long doctors visit, dropping me off places when my car was in the shop to make my life easier etc. Is this his way of showing he wants this to work? And if it is, if I give him a second chance, how do I know he won't stop being so proactive and lovely? What if I get back with him and he goes back to not really giving a crap? I guess my question is also: How do I know he genuinely wants this to work and he's not just doing this to get me back? Cuz if I take him back, there's no guarantee he will continue this and won't go back to his old "meh" self. Edited January 20, 2014 by Hopeful30
deathandtaxes Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Some break you two are having if all that stuff between you two is happening. Somebody's wishes are not being respected in this matter.
Shashasha Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 It looks like he is definitely trying... I think this is really hard - you want him to be more expressive but fact is, he cant change who he is or it wont be so easy for him. Its like asking you to change for him. I guess you should try to give and take or re-evaluate this relationship to see whether its worth it. I had the same problem with my ex - I used to complain so much that he he didn't do this and that...looking back now, I think he showed his love in different ways - not in the way I wanted it to be but it meant he cared! good luck xx 1
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