sraposo5 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 So I dated this guy for a year and a few months. We broke up about 3 weeks ago. At first I was sad of course. We just are not compatible in a relationship. I'm not even sure after a few weeks of thinking and reflecting if I ever loved him. I feel like I got confused between love and lust since we had an extremely strong physical attraction to each other and a connection that I can't explain. I have been asked a million times what I like about him and besides for his physical appearance and the fact that he's funny I really don't know what else I like. He also does not love me anymore, but says he still misses me, but it gets easier every day to deal with. He also has no idea what he likes about me. There are certain things I miss about him, but what hit home for me and opened my eyes was the fact that the only things I really miss about being with him is all the physical stuff. I don't miss anything about his personality or how he treated me, just sex, cuddling and I also miss sleeping next to someone every night. He was a real jerk to me when we were together. Long story short, he did not treat me very well. Also, rejection just hurts in general. It sucks that I got dumped and it sucks to know that he just didn't want to try and make our relationship work anymore. After talking for the first time in weeks I suggested being friends with benefits. I sincerely just enjoy having sex with him and want to continue that without the ties of a relationship. I genuinely DO NOT want to get back together with him. I mean, I wish things were different and we were compatible, but we just aren't. At first he was hesitant. He said it probably wasn't a good idea to continue to hook up. He said "something might happen", and I can only assume that means that he's afraid I would want to get back together with him or vice-versa. I'm just a little confused because he said he doesn't love me anymore and he even said while he's still physically attracted to me he isn't as attracted to me as he was when he broke up with me. Well, we ended up hooking up once. It seemed like he was really uncomfortable. I reassured him that I really wasn't interested in getting back together, but he keeps saying that hooking up just "feels wierd because, it feels like before" (as in still being together). What do you guys think this means? I mean I still enjoy hooking up, but I know that we are still broken up and I still don't want to get back together... He still wants to hook up again, but he says he's on the fence about this whole friends with benefits thing because of the whole it feels like before thing and, he says something might happen. What are your thoughts on this. Boys are hard to read haha help! I always thought a guy would be happy with just hooking up with no ties!
pickflicker Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I don't think you think very highly of your ex if you think he should just be happy screwing you because you have a vagina. I think you need to come to terms with the fact that your ex no longer wants to be with you. In any capacity.
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