Unknownsld Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Sorry, this will be a little lengthy but I will try to shorten it as best as I can. Basically, my girlfriend has been spending a lot of time away from me these last 9 days. Usually staying at a 50 yr old's house for a night or two at a time. She went back to his house last night and now is going back to her friends house an hour and a half away. This friend is also friends with her ex bf who keeps trying to get back with her. She also wants ME to take her to this girls house. We are now in an argument over text messaging. -I asked her where she wanted me to take her stuff. -She didn't get the hint that quick. -When she did, she gets pissed and starts to put me down. -I informed her that she spends way more time staying the night at other peoples homes and she gets even angrier with me about it. -Now she is telling me that I am not a man.. blah blah blah. Your opinions?
ChrisPA5126 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 The biggest issue I see here is a lack of communication Now, when you have been given the chance to talk with her, see what her deal really is, you sarcastically come off, "Where do you want me to take your stuff?" what kind of relationship is this where either of you refuse to talk things? Not saying she doesnt have fault, but be reasonable and simply ask her why the sudden distancing between the two of you, and tell her you're uncomfortable with her spending a night at a50 year old's house. What the hell's up with that anyway? Are you guys near that age? Is she alone with this guy? You have to tell her that this raises a red flag, and you simply had to act. Come on, she's pissed off, your sarcasm wouldn't help anymore than your capability to talk will. Clearly, you don't act well on instinct.
Author Unknownsld Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 I try to talk to her but she hasn't wanted to talk lately. She did move out officially earlier this week. Though she still has some of her stuff here and makes up excuses not to come get it. She is now living with the old guy who is almost 60. Since she moved in, she has talked to me less, yelled at me more and ignores me a lot. Already blew me off once to hang out and keeps making up excuses to keep from seeing me and getting her stuff. She told me she was raped when she was about 14 or 15 by a guy in his 50's. Found out this guy was arrested for assault of a minor around the time that supposedly happened to her. She is 19, he is 55-60 years old according to his arrest records. I think they are sleeping together.
Silly_Girl Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 You're better off way out of it. Sooner you cut all ties with her, the better.
salparadise Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I asked her where she wanted me to take her stuff. Easy. Box her sh*t up and send her a text... "you have one hour to come get your box of sh*t off the porch. Don't knock on the door."
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