PinkInTheLimo Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I don't see anything wrong with not feeling like kissing on a first date. I mean, having someone put their tongue into your mouth is still a very intimate thing in my opinion so I really need to have strong feelings for someone in order to engage in that activity. With most people just thinking about doing this makes me wanna gag. So it is really very exceptional and special if someone makes me feel like doing this. So my first reason for not kissing on a first date is simply because I can't feel what I need to feel to kiss someone in such a short time. The second reason is because I have the impression that there are people in dating land who kiss and have sex not because they feel like it but because they are curious. They just want to know how you "taste". I don't want to be tested that way. I only want to kiss and have sex when the feeling is so strong that it is unavoidable to do it, and at that moment I certainly don't want to do it with anyone else. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I personally never kiss on the first date, at least on the lips. I give hugs and a kiss on the cheek if the woman made me feel warm and fuzzy on the inside during the date. It's the least I can do show my affection. I'm okay with repeating the hug and kiss on the subsequent dates. There is no hard and fast rule that signifies I have to try to get a kiss in by date two or three. The woman has to show her interest and wanting a kiss by moving in close to me, so whether that happens on date two or date five, I don't force it. On a third hand somewhere out in the galaxy far far away, the dates that I do have are far more likely to be successful because of it. Not kissing on the first date establishes that you have boundaries and you are not easy. Many men, and women too, want to kiss on the first date because they want instant magic and instant knowledge the other person is interested. Unless you meet a man that sweeps you off your feet the first date (which can happen), a man that wants to force it is not right for you anyway. 2
Phoe Posted January 24, 2014 Posted January 24, 2014 I'm the only girl my boyfriend didn't kiss on the first date. In the past he always kissed the girl. He said he chose not to kiss me because he liked me so much. He wanted to respect me and not go for anything physical or intimate too soon. So I'd say not kissing on a first date is a good thing 1
Author AnyaNova Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 I don't see anything wrong with not feeling like kissing on a first date. I mean, having someone put their tongue into your mouth is still a very intimate thing in my opinion so I really need to have strong feelings for someone in order to engage in that activity. With most people just thinking about doing this makes me wanna gag. So it is really very exceptional and special if someone makes me feel like doing this. So my first reason for not kissing on a first date is simply because I can't feel what I need to feel to kiss someone in such a short time. The second reason is because I have the impression that there are people in dating land who kiss and have sex not because they feel like it but because they are curious. They just want to know how you "taste". I don't want to be tested that way. I only want to kiss and have sex when the feeling is so strong that it is unavoidable to do it, and at that moment I certainly don't want to do it with anyone else. On the one hand, there is the peculiar way my minds works that dislikes not having an ability, that thinks that if my mind were truly and 100 percent in my control, I should be able to find a way (not that I'm going to), On the other, the idea of letting a stranger stick their tongue in my mouth is just so nauseatingly vomitable, no matter how wonderful a a stranger it is. I do agree.
Author AnyaNova Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 I personally never kiss on the first date, at least on the lips. I give hugs and a kiss on the cheek if the woman made me feel warm and fuzzy on the inside during the date. It's the least I can do show my affection. I'm okay with repeating the hug and kiss on the subsequent dates. There is no hard and fast rule that signifies I have to try to get a kiss in by date two or three. The woman has to show her interest and wanting a kiss by moving in close to me, so whether that happens on date two or date five, I don't force it.. So, out of curiosity, if a woman seemed uncomfortable yet with the hug and the kiss on the cheek, but generally seemed positive towards you, would that bother you? Not kissing on the first date establishes that you have boundaries and you are not easy. Many men, and women too, want to kiss on the first date because they want instant magic and instant knowledge the other person is interested. Unless you meet a man that sweeps you off your feet the first date (which can happen), a man that wants to force it is not right for you anyway. Easy is something I have never been. Instant magic? That is a situation in which instant Karma is going to get you and it is not going to be good. Instant magic is only, too my mind, the pipe dream of a ghost of a fantasy and has nothing to do with the real person standing in front of you. See, it is time for me to meet that man who sweeps me off my feet! :-p And I do agree that one who would try to force such a thing would earn himself an instant elimination.
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