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Hello, so we were together a little over a year and were friends for about a year before that. During that time everything was pretty amazing. I loved him more than anything and he always told me how much he loved me and knew I was the woman he wanted to spend his life with and all that good stuff. He got me to let my guard down and truly trust him. THEN.. out of nowhere he pulls the whole Im depressed, I dont know whats wrong with me, I need some space to think. Well I gave him that space because I loved him and this was so out of the blue I just didnt know what else to do. It was complete torture, the guy I would sleep next to every night and that was my best friend just stopped talking to me. I tried after some time to talk with about what was going on but he said it was just too hard. He went back and forth with bs about how it had nothing to do with us and that he didnt want anyone else and im not good enough for you blah blah blah. nothing made sense. He didnt talk to me for a month and I was just trying to be a good gf (which now I look back and feel so stupid) and give him his "Space" one day I ran into him with another girl, who I knew btw, and he said it was nothing and they were just friends. Then after that he finally met with me and was like we are not together I just need to be alone. I was devastated. I wasted all this time worrying about him, thinking we would end up working it out but he just strung me along to then **** on my life. I was still so confused because nothing was wrong in our relationship. He never expressed any unhappiness. I just didnt get it. I became severely depressed and had bad anxiety. But I stayed strong and didnt contact him. I then find out a few weeks later he is now in a relationship with the girl I saw him with. Another huge blow. After that the truth began to come out. He had decided while we were still together he wanted to get with her and lied to me for months about how in love he was with me and wanted to marry me when he really wanted to get with her. He was getting with her in that month of me giving him "Space" and just lied to me over and over.

 

There is are so many more details and crap he lied about to me but to make it short. I have deleted him in every way I can and DO NOT want him back. My thing is im still so hurt. He has never said sorry and doesnt feel bad. This guy who spent over year with me saying I was the love of his life and could never want anyone else and would never let me go acts like we never happened and he does not seem to care. im trying to be strong and keep my head high but I still feel so worthless and disrespected. I never would have dreamed that he would do anything like this to me and he has lied and betrayed me and left me for some random girl. Its been almost four months since everything has happened and I am doing better then I was but I saw him with her the other day and it's like it all punched me in the gut again. I just want this to get easier but it feels like it wont.

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I know exactly how you feel. I was in a five year relationship with a guy that cheated on me the entire time we were together. Then after a while I trusted someone else and he betrayed and lied to me as well. It still hurts but you have to remember that you are not worthless. I know how much it hurts your self confidence but you have to surround yourself with people who love u the most in the world such as your family. Things will get better with time (at least I hope it does). You have to remember that you actually won in this situation not lost to another girl. She got the short end of the stick and this provides you with a chance to find someone worthy of your love. We have to stay strong. I know its hard. I spent all day crying as well but it will get better

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I know exactly how you feel. I was in a five year relationship with a guy that cheated on me the entire time we were together. Then after a while I trusted someone else and he betrayed and lied to me as well. It still hurts but you have to remember that you are not worthless. I know how much it hurts your self confidence but you have to surround yourself with people who love u the most in the world such as your family. Things will get better with time (at least I hope it does). You have to remember that you actually won in this situation not lost to another girl. She got the short end of the stick and this provides you with a chance to find someone worthy of your love. We have to stay strong. I know its hard. I spent all day crying as well but it will get better

 

This is excellent advice. Sorry for your pain Dancer99

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