juststarry6443 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Am I being narrow-minded if I'm turned off by a man's lack of intelligence? I'm talking to this guy. He's so wise & determined which is why I find him so inspiring. I would assume tht his work ethic would show in school. I see his grades & I'm like eww...you failed at English grammar for non-english speakers?! But anyways is tht weird. Should I just be okay with tht because not all people are good in school.
evade Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Am I being narrow-minded if I'm turned off by a man's lack of intelligence? I'm talking to this guy. He's so wise & determined which is why I find him so inspiring. I would assume tht his work ethic would show in school. I see his grades & I'm like eww...you failed at English grammar for non-english speakers?! But anyways is tht weird. Should I just be okay with tht because not all people are good in school. by our post, seems like youre lacking it as well 3
MidwestUSA Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Yep, you should be okay with 'tht'. Maybe he has other great qualities. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Some people have insightful intelligence, while not with learned intelligence. Others are the opposite, and very few are blessed with both. Then you can even drill it down to where a person is mathematically inclined, but can't construct a proper written sentence. Whether you should be okay with this is a personal matter. No one is perfect, contrary to what some people on this site believe such as the teenage and 20-something young men that keep finding "perfect" girls. If this man you are talking to is wise and determined, and I assume he makes you feel warm and fuzzy on inside, then what does it matter that he can't construct a perfect love missive for you? 1
mhm407 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Nothing turns me on quite like a smart guy so no, I don't think there's anything wrong with being turned off by unintelligent guys. But keep in mind that many intelligent people - geniuses, even (i.e. Einstein) - have made poor grades or even flunked out of school. And then of course there are always those people who make good grades but don't seem to have much common sense! 1
Author juststarry6443 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 by our post, seems like youre lacking it as well For someone to make such an assumption towards a stranger, lacks intelligence.
d0nnivain Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 You can't fairly judge a person by their GPA. Perhaps they don't test well. That aside, if you think the person is unable to maintain an interesting conversation, you don't have to date them.
potsticker Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 You can't fairly judge a person by their GPA. Perhaps they don't test well. being from an asian family, I can tell you, plenty of people judge others by their GPA. It's sort of a norm amongst culturally east asian communities.
Guitarisgood Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Each to their own. We each have our perks and things we like in an ideal partner. Your interest in someone's intelligence is the same as someone else who prefers blondes. When it boils down to it all, the question is do you still like the guy besides his shortcomings? That is the question.
Eivuwan Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 You have a pretty narrow idea of intelligence if you think he isn't just due to his grades.
carhill Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 OP, I guess you'll want to decide whether 'wise and determined' balances out his apparently below par (to you) grades in school. In life, there is balance in everything. It's different for each of us. TBH, having experienced the gamut, I'll take a 'not so smart' person with a 'good heart' any day of the week. YMMV.
pickflicker Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 For someone to make such an assumption towards a stranger, lacks intelligence. I think people who say "ewwwww" to grades are judgmental. Intelligence or not, you're certainly not endearing anyone to your cause. 1
Thegreatestthing Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I'm really turned off by people preoccupied with grammar etc ,or even academic people they strike me as really rule bound,systematic,reasoned and regulated. Depends what type of person you are.
ThatMan Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 For someone to make such an assumption towards a stranger, lacks intelligence. Joseph Joubert used to say that, "There are some mind, which although of a superior order, are underrated through want of a recognized standard by which to measure them. They are like a precious metal, for which there is no test." You are free to believe whatever you'd like. I believe that you've made the very same assumptions yourself about another person. Maybe this quote will help you reach an answer on your own. 1
ebor Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Am I being narrow-minded if I'm turned off by a man's lack of intelligence? I'm talking to this guy. He's so wise & determined which is why I find him so inspiring. I would assume tht his work ethic would show in school. I see his grades & I'm like eww...you failed at English grammar for non-english speakers?! But anyways is tht weird. Should I just be okay with tht because not all people are good in school. I have nothing to add to the discussion, but Where are you originally from? Or your parents origin? Judging from your profile pic you look a lot like Habesha.
Emilia Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 being from an asian family, I can tell you, plenty of people judge others by their GPA. It's sort of a norm amongst culturally east asian communities. Yes, I've seen that. I've always found the superficiality of that rather tragic. OP, it's up to you to decide what's important to you but in my experience people fail exams for all sorts of reasons. They are often very good at something else. I tend to value common sense over academic achievements. It's easier to be a book worm than to manage your life well overall.
devilish innocent Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Maybe he was too busy with work to give his attention to school? Maybe he grew up in a community where people don't speak standard grammar so it was a lot harder for him to learn? Maybe the class was so boring to him that he stopped going to class? Maybe he has attention deficit disorder or dyslexia, both of which have nothing to do with intelligence? I wouldn't make assumptions of a person's intelligence based on school grades. My husband scores at the genius level when he takes IQ tests, but he failed several of his classes at a community college. I don't think there's anything wrong with preferring intelligent men though. We all are attracted to different things. Intelligence is no worse than most of the other criteria people use to narrow down their options.
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