krista28 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 at the beginning of November myself and a guy from work went out on a date. we had a date..then we went out again and ended up sleeping together. I was bitter when I went on the date and was kinda bashing men. so we ended up sleeping together. he then didn't even speak to me afterwards and my friend basically threatened him. we haven't spoken since, and we see eachother at work on and off. so its been at least two months since weve really spoken. he works there fulltime and im more part time. anyhow...whenever im there I have a longing look in my face at him.he looks at me too. I think we both still have feelings for eachother but everyone at work foundout what happened..because I told one person. so hes mad at me even though it didn't affect his job in the end...more me than anything cuz everyone thinks im a whore bag. well not everyone but they judge me. I know things got crazy but I still have feelings for him. he hasn't texted me since and I haven't texted him...but like everytime I see him theres freaking something there..,and I know it. what do I do. I think both of us are too stubborn to start talking again..and hes kinda hostile to me at work...like wont help me sometimes.
Barbarossa Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 He's probably mad that you told everyone about the two of you having sex. Obviously he got what he wanted so you should just move on and leave the poor guy alone.
MidwestUSA Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Krista, didn't you say this was a second job for you? Do you think maybe it's time to move on? Think of all the drama you went thru, as well as a possible pregnancy scare. If it takes quitting this job to get away from it, don't you think that's what you should do? 1
Author krista28 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 I don't know I like the job and my friends there. I am away from it..I'm a strong girl but I do think there's still feelings there and I dont think its just me.I need the money top.
MidwestUSA Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 So what are you looking for? If you want to date him, get the birth control issue under control first. Then start talking to him. If you date, he's not going to want to wait for sex.
Author krista28 Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 No he's not but I just found out that he is a. womasnizer from a lady at April. she said the is going after a nineteen year old. he's way too old. anyhow I guess I cracked that code.
MidwestUSA Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 No he's not but I just found out that he is a. womasnizer from a lady at April. she said the is going after a nineteen year old. he's way too old. anyhow I guess I cracked that code. Yep, now you know. Ignore him (and the judgmental ones) as best you can and just do your job. Things will blow over. 1
Author krista28 Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 Thanks ya..total sleaze. man...you'd think he'd know better by now..how mashup girls is he gonna sleep with at work.
snowflakes88 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Nothing about this guy says he ever had feelings for you. Nothing, nothing, nothing. Nothing. You need to let this go. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Nothing about this guy says he ever had feelings for you. Nothing, nothing, nothing. Nothing. You need to let this go. This. I think it was a pretty one-sided flings, feelings-wise. OP, it seems that you want something to be there but there just isn't. Time to move on.
Author krista28 Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 Snowflake always the cynic. you don't really know the sit. I still see him at work all the time and we have to face each other so either of us can fully let it go
Author krista28 Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 He's not letting it go .he's hostile to me at work so maybe that speaks differently. to DVD angry is to care.
letmoc Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 So make a move and when he rejects you maybe you will finally let it go
Author krista28 Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 He didn't reject me we been talking tonight.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 He didn't reject me we been talking tonight. So, what sort of advice are you seeking here? You are convinced he had or has feelings for you. You also say he didn't reject you because he still talks to you, even though you say he's hostile. What do you want us to offer you? It doesn't sound like you two have a future together so I'm not sure what it is you want.
Author krista28 Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 Ya your right we don't even tho we talk..I guess it right no future..just see him at work that's it.
Phantom888 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I don't know I like the job and my friends there. I am away from it..I'm a strong girl but I do think there's still feelings there and I dont think its just me.I need the money top. Stay away from each other before he calls the police. 1
MidwestUSA Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Stay away from each other before he calls the police. I don't think it will come to that. Krista, you just need to repeat to yourself 'He's a womanizer. I made one mistake and am not going there again. He doesn't care about me'.
Phantom888 Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Isnt this the older guy who just blew you off after sleeping with you? why are you wasting your time and energy thinking about him? He is not an honorable person. You need to think more highly of yourself. Just pretend he never existed. 2
Leigh 87 Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 Is this for real? Krista, I want to give you some honest feedback. Your behaviour right now is not indicative of a smart, professional woman. Women who have class and who are desirable to others DO NOT carry on the way you are. Guys are kind of simple; if they are really interested in you, they tend to make time for you, they ask you out, and they make you their girlfriend. Here is how an intelligent, professional and classy woman would handle this; - you would, for starters, TRY to refrain from inter - office dating or screwing. Professional, desirable woman HAVE OPTIONS and do not NEED to resort to eating where they sh*t. - if you DID slip up and sleep with a co worker (yes it happens to the best sort of women, people make bad decisions at times!), then you would cut contact outside work, and keep things strictly professional. UNLESS, say, you were the loves of each others lives, in which case you would date him WITHOUT the drama! All I read in your posts are drama drama and more drama! You should strive to be a woman of class, who handles things with integrity. Women that are worthwhile simple either date guys they are into them, or they simply stop talking to men who treat them like they are only good for one thing. If you sleep with a man and he does not make you his girlfriend, MOVE ON, ignore him outside of work, and keep your dignity intact. I have, myself, acted childish and unlike a quality woman in my life, even recently.... However, I have chosen to think about the kind of woman I want to be, and I now ensure that my actions follow suit. PLEASE consider how you are coming across! You are NOT acting like a woman that people admire...... Here is a tip: get more involved in charitable work and volunteer for causes that tickle your fancy, rather than revert back to causing drama! Or, exercise more! I can be difficult within my relationship, so I am trying to divert my energy elsewhere so I do not cause issues, which I am apt to do every now and again! I hope you read my post and seriously think about things.. I am trying to help you, I am sure you have great potential to be the woman you want to be. 1
Author krista28 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 I don't know what I want. I talked to Bill last night and well do this thing where he'll talk to me..then get all hostile. I tried apologizing...he won't accept it. most of this was my friends doing but it is somehow being taken out in me he says you areboth problems. like were one person. then he said no more contact please ..yet at work he stares at me...checks me out...seems interested....and then also treats me hostile o just don't understand the behavior..is he bitter he screwed it up?
Author krista28 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 Leigh I appreciate your feedback however there's nothing wrong with how I've conducted myself. I have found out my friend was the center of all of this drama she threatened him and told everyone. ya I get it he's a jerk. I think he's kicking himself now for screwing it up because I have been professional and not hostile and immature like him. I don't think I need to change anything abou myself but thanks leigh the guy and I have talked once in the last two months. I'm done with guys anyway ...I think they're gross users. I am professional and everyone likes me at work It was not me causing this drama..it was my ex friend. I'm not carrying on like anything..I simply have to work with this guy and he's hostile to me.
Author krista28 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 you may think im delusional but i have eyes and i can see whats going on
pickflicker Posted January 22, 2014 Posted January 22, 2014 you may think im delusional but i have eyes and i can see whats going on Krista, the facts remains, you had a brief affair at work. As Leigh said (albeit in a mixed up way) - you don't sh*t where you eat. Never, ever, start love affairs at work. There are plenty of other avenues before that.
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