Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I was with my ex for 10 years, then all came to crash. I was still in contact with her for a year (i know, stupid me). Over the last year, I was having an on and off switch where I could be like "yeah, I'm done with her" or "f***, i hope everything will turn out good". I should've known to let go when I had the chance, but now it all came back to me after our recent talk. Anyways, I told her I didn't want no contact, but why is she still texting me? I really don't get it. She said she has no feelings, but doesn't want to completely lose me because we have that "connection". Selfish much? I'm sick of her sh*t. She'll text me with the update of her current life, but seriously, I don't give a flying f*** about that anymore. I know she'll text me soon. I can feel it, but what the f*** do i do? Do I just ignore it? I told her I was already done. I will admit it though, sometimes I take the bait and respond, then I'll feel like sh*t after because I forget that we aren't what we were before. I just want to get on with my life. I'm tired. Ignore or Nay? Any other suggestions would be highly appreciated.
bentleychic Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Ignore. It will be easier to move on. Do you have a phone provider in which you can block her number? 1
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 I do have a phone provider, but I can't really change my number. I'm in the process of looking for jobs so my resume has my current number. I know one employer might call me. Anyways, if I ignore her, what if she keeps texting me? What do I do at that point? I've been in that situation. I ignore a couple of her texts, then she'll just snap. I really don't know what she wants from me.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Block her number and move on. Once blocked, you won't know if she's tried to text/call or not and it will help you get through the emotional confusion. 2
bentleychic Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Block her number and move on. Once blocked, you won't know if she's tried to text/call or not and it will help you get through the emotional confusion. That's exactly what I meant. Even if you could not do it through your provider, there are some apps that you can download that will enable you to block her. 1
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 That's exactly what I meant. Even if you could not do it through your provider, there are some apps that you can download that will enable you to block her. Oops, I read it wrong. I guess I should do that. UGH. I hate these feelings. It's not what I like to deal with.
JDPT Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Exes are like crack, you know it's detrimental to your health yet you still do it. Let this one go, you've been stuck in time for too long. 1
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Exes are like crack, you know it's detrimental to your health yet you still do it. Let this one go, you've been stuck in time for too long. True. Time for rehab. haha. I really want this though, which is to move on. I've been dealing with this for too long, and you're right. What do you suggest that I do? Same with others? Block her number?
JDPT Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 True. Time for rehab. haha. I really want this though, which is to move on. I've been dealing with this for too long, and you're right. What do you suggest that I do? Same with others? Block her number? The best thing you can do is disappear, no explanations, no goodbyes and most importantly NO closure as there is no such thing. And no you aren't running from anything you are simply guarding your emotional being and paving a better future for yourself. All this is easier said than done, trust me I know, trust us we know, but you must start somewhere and this is your start to a new and improved you. 2
AnyaNova Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 The best thing you can do is disappear, no explanations, no goodbyes and most importantly NO closure as there is no such thing. And no you aren't running from anything you are simply guarding your emotional being and paving a better future for yourself. All this is easier said than done, trust me I know, trust us we know, but you must start somewhere and this is your start to a new and improved you. I cannot emphasize enough. No closure! Closure bad! Skip closure! Nix closure! Stay the heck away from it. All closure does is mess you up. I literally would not be here if it weren't for closure. 2
bentleychic Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Oops, I read it wrong. I guess I should do that. UGH. I hate these feelings. It's not what I like to deal with. I understand and I'm the type of person that won't treat someone that way I don't want to be treated. So it's hard, but at some point, you have to put yourself first as she's obviously only contacting you for her own selfish reasons. 1
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 (edited) The best thing you can do is disappear, no explanations, no goodbyes and most importantly NO closure as there is no such thing. And no you aren't running from anything you are simply guarding your emotional being and paving a better future for yourself. All this is easier said than done, trust me I know, trust us we know, but you must start somewhere and this is your start to a new and improved you. All closure does is mess you up. I literally would not be here if it weren't for closure. Thanks. I used to think that I was "running away" which made everything harder for me to deal with. I suppose you're right though at the part where I need to guard my emotional beings. I never thought about it that way. You sir, are awesome. Edited January 19, 2014 by Blazed quoted the wrong person, haha 1
JDPT Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Thanks. I used to think that I was "running away" which made everything harder for me to deal with. I suppose you're right though at the part where I need to guard my emotional beings. I never thought about it that way. You sir, are awesome. You'll get there, you have a long and prosperous road ahead. 1
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Yup, closures don't work for ****. Had like how many closures in 1 year. 1
AnyaNova Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Never mind. Thought I was responding to something that I saw, but I saw wrong.
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Never mind. Thought I was responding to something that I saw, but I saw wrong. LOL. Sorry, this posting on forums is confusing as hell. I edited it though. It's too complicated LOL. sorry for the misunderstanding!
JDPT Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Yup, closures don't work for ****. Had like how many closures in 1 year. Well now you can say you had "closure" and plenty of it.
AnyaNova Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 LOL. Sorry, this posting on forums is confusing as hell. I edited it though. It's too complicated LOL. sorry for the misunderstanding! No problem! I'm glad you're on board with the closure thing though. If I'd just done the intelligent thing in July and gone NC, I would have been great by September. Instead, I am just pulling the last of the splinter out so I can completely move on with my life.
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Well now you can say you had "closure" and plenty of it. I know huh? No need for any more closures or explanations like what you and the other person said. It's now pointless.
Author Blazed Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 No problem! I'm glad you're on board with the closure thing though. If I'd just done the intelligent thing in July and gone NC, I would have been great by September. Instead, I am just pulling the last of the splinter out so I can completely move on with my life. Well, I sure hope everything is all right with you! I hope our hearts heal so we can get on with our lives! We can do this!!!!!
AnyaNova Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Well, I sure hope everything is all right with you! I hope our hearts heal so we can get on with our lives! We can do this!!!!! It is and we will. I 99 percent have.
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