co456 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 my girlfriend and I have been going through a really rough time right now. We are both 18 and its our first long term relationship. Its all started when I began to feel extremely smothered and tired out in our relationship. We see each other everyday for hours at a time and I guess I just began feeling tired of her being around all the time. I rarely had much time to myself and when I did she was always texting me and complaining that me responding ten minutes after the text had been sent was 'too long' Of course anyone would begin to get annoyed after that... She doesn't have many friends at our university so I guess she's just filled that void with me. It's beginning to take its toll and it's pushing me away from her. Do not get me wrong, I am EXTREMELY attracted to her physically, but I just feel tired and prefer to spend more time to myself now. It's the emotional aspect, I just feel its draining me. I want to work it through this, is there anything that can be done? This girl means a lot to me. I made the foolish decision to take a break when we probably should have worked it out together. I have told her the problems that were pushing me away from her, she told me she would work on them if we continued seeing each other. I feel like my lack of experience in relationships has got the better of me, that I acted more out of impulse than from a collected, rational thinking person opting to run, rather than to work on it together.
mammasita Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Just because she's super hot doesn't mean you're going to be compatible...physical attraction isn't everything. Quite honestly she sounds super high maintenance......she gets upset if you don't respond to a text in 10 minutes?? I think youre doing the right thing by taking a step back. No where in your post did you mention having fun together or having anything in common. Just that you were extremely attracted to her. I think you're only using her as a trophy. 2
Arieswoman Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 10 minutes to respond to a text is "too long" ?? Whaaaat? Suppose you're on the crapper and the 'phone is in the hall? No, it's her who is too demanding and clingy. Set some boundaries and make sure she respects them. BTW do either of you go to work or college, as you seem to have a lot of time on your hands?
Frank2thepoint Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Aside from you being EXTREMELY attracted to her, is there any other reason you still want to continue being with her?
Author co456 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 10 minutes to respond to a text is "too long" ?? Whaaaat? Suppose you're on the crapper and the 'phone is in the hall? No, it's her who is too demanding and clingy. Set some boundaries and make sure she respects them. BTW do either of you go to work or college, as you seem to have a lot of time on your hands? We both go the same university, our course load isn't all that heavy (Bachelor of Commerce) hence we do get quite a bit of spare time.
Author co456 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Just because she's super hot doesn't mean you're going to be compatible...physical attraction isn't everything. Quite honestly she sounds super high maintenance......she gets upset if you don't respond to a text in 10 minutes?? I think youre doing the right thing by taking a step back. No where in your post did you mention having fun together or having anything in common. Just that you were extremely attracted to her. I think you're only using her as a trophy. I am not using her as a trophy.she has helped me become such a better person over the time we've been together, she's taught me to try thousands of times harder in my studies, to manage school and two jobs. We've shared countless memories together all of which spring up constantly ever single minute of my day. She's the first girl I can honestly say I've been in love with. Even to this day I don't know what the thought of having her out of my life would be like because she's been such a prominent, important figure in my life.
d0nnivain Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Very few early relationships last. Part of it is that people grow apart. Part of it is that people want to explore. Your relationship may have run it's course. If she can't handle giving you some alone time -- even one day -- that's not healthy.
deathandtaxes Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 What can you do? You can let her know how you feel. Communication is key in any relationship. You let her know that you need some space. You need 'you' time. You need your own life outside of the relationship.
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