co456 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 So my girlfriend and I have been going through a really rough time right now. We are both 18 and its our first long term relationship. Its all started when I began to feel extremely smothered and tired out in our relationship. We see each other everyday for hours at a time and I guess I just began feeling tired of her being around all the time. I rarely had much time to myself and when I did she was always texting me and complaining that me responding ten minutes after the text had been sent was 'too long' Of course anyone would begin to get annoyed after that... She doesn't have many friends at our university so I guess she's just filled that void with me. It's beginning to take its toll and it's pushing me away from her. Do not get me wrong, I am EXTREMELY attracted to her physically, but I just feel tired and prefer to spend more time to myself now. It's the emotional aspect, I just feel its draining me. I want to work it through this, is there anything that can be done? This girl means a lot to me. I made the foolish decision to take a break when we probably should have worked it out together. I have told her the problems that were pushing me away from her, she told me she would work on them if we continued seeing each other. I feel like my lack of experience in relationships has got the better of me, that I acted more out of impulse than from a collected, rational thinking person opting to run, rather than to work on it together.
Bluefin12 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I have a friend who has been in many long term relationships and just got married last year. The two of them are really best friends, but got into A LOT of fights/bickering after they got married. They even had to see a therapist. The short story was that they were spending too much time together!! They were told to set aside at least 2-3 nights that were EXCLUSIVELY "guy nights" for him and "girl nights" for her. Though it might seem counter-intuitive, the time apart from each other a few nights a week has worked wonders for their relationship. Hope this helps!
Bluefin12 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I do thin though that if the tactic above doesn't work to re-kindle the spark in the relationship, its best for both of you if you don't string her along. Best to be honest with her and especially with yourself...
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