greenfairie Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Any symptoms for you guys to identify if you're falling for somebody or are in love with somebody?
Leigh 87 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 My boyfriend has a short term memory problem due to his brain injury he had years ago. It actually made me like him more; the fact he forgot I bought a pie at he end of our "6 hour date" I KNEW he had memory problems, but I only really witnessed it at he end of our long date! It really endeared me to him, rather then put me off. If anything was wrong with him, I would just want to, with every ounce of energy I had in me, strive towards making him happy/feel better.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Early on you feel crazy in their presence. It may even feel scary. Yet you are driven to be near them. Latter on you notice you aren't crazy in need of being around them but you are comfortable with them. True love is this comfortable feeling. It takes at least six months to get there , usually longer.
Leigh 87 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Early on you feel crazy in their presence. It may even feel scary. Yet you are driven to be near them. Latter on you notice you aren't crazy in need of being around them but you are comfortable with them. True love is this comfortable feeling. It takes at least six months to get there , usually longer. The couples I know who fell head over heels CRAZY in love, they fell in love within a month of first meeting; they just had insane chemistry and that crazy feeling you described AND they also grew to become best friends, so it was not just the chemical high. My bf and I fell in love within a month of first meeting too; we had pervious partners, all for 2 plus years... We had an idea of what true love could be like. It doesn't take everyone 6 months to fall in "true" love. 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 The couples I know who fell head over heels CRAZY in love, they fell in love within a month of first meeting; they just had insane chemistry and that crazy feeling you described AND they also grew to become best friends, so it was not just the chemical high. My bf and I fell in love within a month of first meeting too; we had pervious partners, all for 2 plus years... We had an idea of what true love could be like. It doesn't take everyone 6 months to fall in "true" love. ^^^Same here. We both went through terrible 10 year marriages with spouses that put us both through hell. Both of us went into the whole dating thing saying we weren't looking for anything serious, but those plans quickly went awry. Within 6 weeks, we were both madly in love. The great thing about it, is that our past experiences have made us value and appreciate the little things about each other a lot more. I can honestly say I've never fallen so hard and so fast, but I've also never been in a relationship so effortlessly easy and that just feels so right.
Leigh 87 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 ^^^Same here. We both went through terrible 10 year marriages with spouses that put us both through hell. Both of us went into the whole dating thing saying we weren't looking for anything serious, but those plans quickly went awry. Within 6 weeks, we were both madly in love. The great thing about it, is that our past experiences have made us value and appreciate the little things about each other a lot more. I can honestly say I've never fallen so hard and so fast, but I've also never been in a relationship so effortlessly easy and that just feels so right. Such a sweet story:love: I am not saying it happens often, either; that two people meet and BOTH feel intense chemistry that ALSO turns into true love. It happened to me just once since age 18 (since my first boyfriend). My current guy is the only guy it happened to; the rest of them, I felt very hot chemistry with a few guys but it did not lead to anything deeper. It happened to just me, my good friend and another member of this site (who is in his 40's, has had a lot of relationship experience and yet knew by date two that he was in love). The ONLY way I can describe it is; that giddy and crazy feeling you get at he thought of seeing them again but when it ALSO turns into a comfortable long term arrangement that feels very "right".
Leigh 87 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 ^^^^^oh, and true love is also, for instance, when two people are totally NOT looking for love, and then they meet someone where it just hits them like a ton of bricks. My friend wasn't looking for love' she was in a bad 3 plus year relationship. Her current boyfriend was absolutely NOT looking for a relationship, either. Yet when they met at a gay bar, of all places (supposedly good for single women to meet single men!), they instantly felt "it" with each other, and have been together ever since. Yeah, she broke up with her ex soon after so these two lovebirds could be together.
SadNLonley Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 We were together a few months before it hit me like a ton of bricks. First I would get so excited before seeing him. Like other people said "giddy". I felt so comfortable around him. He became my best friend. It just felt right. One night we were just chilling out at home and talking. All of a sudden, it just hit me. I knew i was in love with this man. It was an awesome 3 years. Now, unfortunately we are no longer together, but oh the feeling of being madly in love with someone is the best feeling.
divinegrace Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I don't think love is easily defined. It's that feeling. Magical and almost drug-like euphoria is good, but that's not where the truest love is. To me I know I've fallen in love when I want my partner to be happy, fulfilled, supported, and know that I care about every aspect of his and our happiness and partnership moving forward. Good and challenging. To me love is also about having that DEEP MUTUAL respect and adoration for one another. When I allow myself to be truly vulnerable to the other person, I know it is love. Finally, I know I'm in love when the thought of that person dying crushes me to the core. It may all read quite dramatically, but it's true. I'm a widow and never believed that I'd experience the truest feelings of love again. I have. 2
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