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why is my girlfriend upset about a birthday gift


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i told her she is getting a great birthday gift, and she is upset I got her anything. I know she will really like it. Why would she be so upset I got her a gift? I know she don't like people spending money on her but I feel like I should get her something

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i told her she is getting a great birthday gift, and she is upset I got her anything. I know she will really like it. Why would she be so upset I got her a gift? I know she don't like people spending money on her but I feel like I should get her something

 

How long have you guys been dating?

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I know she don't like people spending money on her

 

Because she told you this, you 'know' this yet you have chosen not to listen to her.

It doesn't bode well when someone just doesn't listen or thinks they know best.

Its a red flag for me.

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my brother does, did in fact, not like gifts, he did not want the obligation, the expense it might incur me, I just buy small things. a nicely wrapped something basic, for her then, tights of a make she likes that she likes, say, or just some product that she likes, secretly see what she uses

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What sort of girl doesn't like presents ? Duh ???

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What exactly did she say about not wanting presents?

 

What is the issue about people spending money on her? Is she worried about money generally? Is she worried about your finances and wants you to take care of yourself instead of getting her something? Can you provide more info?

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If she told you that she doesn't like people getting her presents but you got her something anyway, she views that as you not respecting her wishes.

 

 

I usually ignore people when they tell me not to get them presents. However, you can't tell them in advance. It upsets them. You just give it to them & let them realize that they have to graciously accept the gift to make you happy. It's a balance.

 

 

If you haven't given it to her yet, to keep the peace take it back

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She doesn't want to have to buy you something in the future.

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You should have made her something yourself so that you wouldn't have to spend money you see.

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