brandensbaby Posted January 11, 2005 Share Posted January 11, 2005 me and my current boyfriend have been together for about 2 years, and you know how people say when you meet the right one you just know it? you get that feeling that no one has ever even come close to giving you? better than any butterfly in your stomach or smile on your face? well thats how we are. he was a ex-bf's friend(no hard feelings between the two of them) and we started off as just friends and then one day it was like "oh my god, when did this happen." well anyways things have been great we bicker every now and then but mostly laugh. he is everything that i always knew i wanted and more. he lovess me truly and sencerly but has this commitment thing going on. back in october, out of no where he decides he misses some of his freedom and decides that we should take a break, after me telling him that i dont believe in takeing breaks. well needless to say the break never really happened. we see eachother just asmuch if more , but he has gotten in the habbit of going out with his friends all weekend, not calling, and me working around his schedule. now he is one of those guys that would rather forget about something then to talk and solve it. its driving me nuts! im sick of it. we are constantly talking about marriage and when we have kids. but where does he get off thinking im going to marry him when our relationship is like it is now. now i know that i should say that its time to move on and im okay with that because i know that in the end we will be back together and fine. but then theres that chance that the reunion wont happen. and i will be one of those lonely old ladys sitting there wondering "what if" please someone i need an outside opinion on what i should consider doing before i get so fed up and theres nothing left of me and him. -thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Don't work around his schedule. If he doesn't have time for you, don't make it okay for him to squeeze you in... Make your own plans with your friends, and stick to them even when or if he calls you.. if you have other plans, tell him you've got your own things going on and will get with him later. Stop discussing marriage with this guy... if he already has committment issues this isn't going to help resolve them.. Just heard these words a few days ago myself and here they are from my Dad (and God knows he's da man!) LOL he said and I quote "Stop making yourself so damn available" Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
iceisles Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Your Dad sounds awesome, Merin. Just the kind of guy I could kick back and have a long talk with. Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Originally posted by iceisles Your Dad sounds awesome, Merin. Just the kind of guy I could kick back and have a long talk with. Lol. He is awesome.. he wasn't around for me a lot when I was growing up.. but yeah I've found his friendship and life experiance to be invaluable to me as an adult... When I don't need to be "bullsh*tted" or told what I WANT to hear... he is the first person I ask... Link to post Share on other sites
brandensbaby Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 i have never broken plans with someone for him, and i have never dropped what i am doing for him. we both understand how important our seperate lives are right now. but its like i want a life more with him then what we have right now. last night i tried talking to him about things and he almost doesnt even want to discuss it it. he'd rather forget about our problems and kep going on with everything like normal. anyways i cant think of anything else to say for now. thanks again for replying and tell your dad thanks for the quote. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 Originally posted by brandensbaby i have never broken plans with someone for him, and i have never dropped what i am doing for him. we both understand how important our seperate lives are right now. but its like i want a life more with him then what we have right now. last night i tried talking to him about things and he almost doesnt even want to discuss it it. he'd rather forget about our problems and kep going on with everything like normal. anyways i cant think of anything else to say for now. thanks again for replying and tell your dad thanks for the quote. You may not have broken plans with someone for him... but because you said yourself that YOU schedule your life around HIM... well, it seems you ONLY make plans with someone else when he has let YOU know that HE is going to be to busy to hang out with you... He wants to go on with things like "normal" well IMO perception is reality... You're welcome for the quote... Link to post Share on other sites
brandensbaby Posted January 12, 2005 Share Posted January 12, 2005 good point Link to post Share on other sites
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