DanielFife83 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 if a guy is in his 30s and he lives with his parents, does that make it so he will never get a girlfriend?
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I'm not understanding the question?
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 What are the circumstances? what if he lost his job, or is trying to find (And save up) for a job that he can support himself so he can move out. Thats my circumstances. 1
MidwestUSA Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I'm not understanding the question? Can a guy in his 30's, who lives with his parents, still get a girlfriend? That's my translation.
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Can a guy in his 30's, who lives with his parents, still get a girlfriend? That's my translation. I Was asking can he?
thefooloftheyear Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 what if he lost his job, or is trying to find (And save up) for a job that he can support himself so he can move out. Thats my circumstances. It wouldnt be a good sign.... Once I left the nest, that was it..I fell on hard times early on, but I wouldnt ever go back..If it were me, Id focus more on getting my life/career on track and leave the dating for when you are back out there and in a stronger position....Id be too embarrassed to admit to that, unless i was there for a specific reason(like to take care of a sick parent).. But thats just me...Everyone has hard times.. TFY 2
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 It wouldnt be a good sign.... Once I left the nest, that was it..I fell on hard times early on, but I wouldnt ever go back..If it were me, Id focus more on getting my life/career on track and leave the dating for when you are back out there and in a stronger position....Id be too embarrassed to admit to that, unless i was there for a specific reason(like to take care of a sick parent).. But thats just me...Everyone has hard times.. TFY if I meet a girl that is in that situation, I will overlook it and still love her. but for daitng , I feel time waits for no one as I am getting older.
thefooloftheyear Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 if I meet a girl that is in that situation, I will overlook it and still love her. but for daitng , I feel time waits for no one as I am getting older. Thats fine... I would approach it as if you happen to meet someone and the pieces fall into place- great...But I wouldnt waste that energy on going about aggressively pursuing anyone until I had my own life in order....\ But again, thats just me... TFY
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Thats fine... I would approach it as if you happen to meet someone and the pieces fall into place- great...But I wouldnt waste that energy on going about aggressively pursuing anyone until I had my own life in order....\ But again, thats just me... TFY I cant have it where there are no women to date. what if I Am single at 33 or 34.
Mariposa10 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 OP, are you American? If so, you might have a hard time trying to find an American gf who's ok with this situation. However, because of the how bad the economy got not too long ago many people started going back their parents' house, so maybe it has become a little bit more acceptable. I know the economy is not good yet, so for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker. It'd be a deal breaker, if the mom was still doing his laundry, cooking his food haha etc, that would be a deal breaker and a red flag. Can a guy in his 30's, who lives with his parents, still get a girlfriend? That's my translation.
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 OP, are you American? If so, you might have a hard time trying to find an American gf who's ok with this situation. However, because of the how bad the economy got not too long ago many people started going back their parents' house, so maybe it has become a little bit more acceptable. I know the economy is not good yet, so for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker. It'd be a deal breaker, if the mom was still doing his laundry, cooking his food haha etc, that would be a deal breaker and a red flag. I make my own food and do my laundry and I am not seen much at home so at times its s if I dont live there. I AM MAKING AN EFFORT TO MOVE OUT.
Mariposa10 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Relax, I know you're making an effort. Maybe I wasn't clear enough, but for me this wouldn't be a deal breaker. I don't care if the guy chooses to keep living with his parents as long as he does his own things and doesn't expect anybody else to do them for him!! I make my own food and do my laundry and I am not seen much at home so at times its s if I dont live there. I AM MAKING AN EFFORT TO MOVE OUT.
Eau Claire Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 My 5 siblings and I had all left home around 18. None of us ever moved back home. Sure, there may be women who wouldn't mind but it is a red flag for many. I would expect a man, even if he lost his job, etc. to have been financially responsible and had planned for such a set back. It be a double red flag if he had never left home. 2
deathandtaxes Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 if a guy is in his 30s and he lives with his parents, does that make it so he will never get a girlfriend? Does an internet bot know it's a bot?
pink_sugar Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I agree, it depends on the circumstances. My husband and I (almost 25 and 30) are having to stay with family since I recently lost my job and he is only working part time. Due to high living cost in my area, there's no way we can afford to stay on our own on unemployment and a part time income. We're moving somewhere cheaper. Otherwise, we have been on our own for 6 years...but situations do happen unfortunately. However, if a guy who is 30 and has never been on his own, that is a different situation entirely. I would be iffy on dating a guy who has never lived outside his parent's home. The exception is if he is helping his parents financially. I have a friend who is over 30 and living with her mom, she helps her mom pay the mortgage along with other things she would have a hard time doing without her daughter's help.
lace5262 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 He probably can. My brother is 32; won't keep a job, alcoholic/pill head, lives with my parents, has a violent temper, been to jail multiple times, and on and on. He has no problem with women coming after him. I don't understand it at all. But I swear, if he has gf's, I don't see how anybody couldn't.
thefooloftheyear Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 He probably can. My brother is 32; won't keep a job, alcoholic/pill head, lives with my parents, has a violent temper, been to jail multiple times, and on and on. He has no problem with women coming after him. I don't understand it at all. But I swear, if he has gf's, I don't see how anybody couldn't. With all due respect.. Not speaking of the OP here, I doubt they are "high quality" type of women...he may get some of the mommy types or the "fixers"...But even then, I doubt they last long... Just sayin' TFY 1
lace5262 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 With all due respect.. Not speaking of the OP here, I doubt they are "high quality" type of women...he may get some of the mommy types or the "fixers"...But even then, I doubt they last long... Just sayin' TFY Oh I think you're right about them being 'mommy types/fixers'.
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 The only circumstance I could accept would be being a carer for a sick parent. Otherwise it's a total dealbreaker for me. I'm nearly 26, been out on my own for seven years, I'd rather move into a homeless shelter than move back in with my parents. It's called independence and standing on your own two feet, if I met a guy who lived with parents I'd worry he wasn't quite capable of making his own way in the world yet.
Revolver Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Is he like a doctor? That changes the convo completely
ThatMan Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Two words: Man Child. My first and most immediate inclination is to jump to a bad opinion. So I have to wonder how different women will react. But then I begin to see the bigger picture within the next five seconds. **** happens to anyone. All it takes is one single accident to be drowning in debt for the rest of your life. I suppose that I might be willing to date a woman who still lives with her parents... So perhaps there are also women who are also willing to date a man who lives at home... Not my problem. What little I do know is that I can tell a lot about a person based on how they react to those less fortunate. The women who cannot fathom unexpected circumstances are the sort of women that I do not want in my 0life. They're too judgmental, not very understanding, and even slightly entitled. Nobody is entitled to have even a job, let alone have a job just because a person snaps their fingers and wants to be independent. Even the homeless aren't entitled to have a roof over their heads. Homeless shelters frequently turn away countless people. I have to question whether or not a potential date will be understanding if my own circumstances ever change for the worse if she isn't an understanding person. So why bother with her when there are more compassionate and thoughtful women out there? Maybe living with parents isn't such a desperate or hopeless situation after all.
Eau Claire Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 He probably can. My brother is 32; won't keep a job, alcoholic/pill head, lives with my parents, has a violent temper, been to jail multiple times, and on and on. He has no problem with women coming after him. I don't understand it at all. But I swear, if he has gf's, I don't see how anybody couldn't. So true. We dispense advice. And then...wow...all shake our heads at times and think 'huh?'.
William Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 While the topic remains valid and open for discussion in general terms, do not expect any replies from the thread starter. 1
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