datingnoob93 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I need to figure out how to get back at this girl I have been dating. I've spent over $200 taking her out 3x over the last SIX WEEKS and all I've gotten is a quick kiss. She is very nice in person and she's hot but between dates her behavior is downright disrespectful. She never calls or texts first. I almost never reach her by calling. She takes forever to respond to text, and gives me one word answers. She flakes and cancels dates over and over again. There was a period of 2 weeks of complete non-contact last month when she went out of state without telling me, and was completely rude when she finally responded to all my texts asking her if she's okay, merry Xmas, Happy new year, etc. I feel like she is just using me and treating me like a doormat. I was supposed to meet up with her earlier in the week but she canceled because she had to "stay over at work". So instead we made plans for today but the very last minute (while I was driving to her house) she canceled again because she has to "take the dog to the vet." Its great how she likes her stupid dog more than me. I've put up with it so far cause I know she has 2 jobs and also goes to school with a full credit load. We are both pre-health majors and have to study extremely hard to maintain 3.7+ GPA's. So yes I know that free time is at a premium for her. But it's also at a premium for me, and it's insulting to me how she thinks her dog is more important. I responded to her last text with "hope ur dog's okay maybe we can go out later?". But I'm done with this chick. Not only that, I feel so incensed that I looking to take revenge. I don't mean physically or anything illegal, just looking to give her a hard time. I'm thinking about taking her out to a really expensive restaurant next time, ordering the most expensive dishes on the menu, and then just leaving her there. She'll have to pick up the tab and take a cab home. Or maybe posting her full name, picture, email, and phone number on websites of ill repute. That's sure to haunt her when she applies to professional school ! Any other suggestions on how to mess with her ?? I need to teach this disrespectful chick a lesson.
Barbarossa Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I don't think she did anything wrong it seems like she's just not that into you. I would just forget about her and find someone who values you. 3
MidwestUSA Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 The best revenge would be to stop going back for more. She's treating you like a doormat? Stop being one. 5
Thegreatestthing Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Clearly you enjoy her disrespecting you or you wouldn't have kept chasing her and you wouldn't be posting about her. I notice when Im Disinterested in a guy,no games, just not interested he goes nuts. If you want to annoy her,ignore her.but I doubt she will care. 1
angel.eyes Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 She sent very clear messages the whole time that she really really wasn't interested, and you persisted anyway. I would focus on learning from this, otherwise you will find yourself in this position again and again. Good luck. 1
somedude81 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 A pre-health major that wants to take revenge on a girl? Please post your name and where you plan to do your residency so everybody can know to stay the hell away. 6
Author datingnoob93 Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 Thats so passive though it doesn't give me any satisfaction. I know 100% that if I never contact her again absolutely nothing will happen. She will not initiate anything. She's not going to run back to me. She'll think, hey, my flaking finally worked, he finally lost interest. So that's why I want to do something active against her. To let her know in absolutely no uncertain terms how I feel.
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Believe me, I have revenge fantasies all the time. All the time. Never once have I acted on them. Why? Bad karma. You might think screwing her over will bring a balance to the situation, but all it does is breed negative energy. Rule of thumb for me is to just walk away. If people truly did bad things to others, they will get theirs. Universe has a funny way of handling things. You don't need to interfere. Probably not the answer you wanted but the only one I can give. Walk away. 3
MidwestUSA Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 A pre-health major that wants to take revenge on a girl? Please post your name and where you plan to do your residency so everybody can know to stay the hell away. Are you talking about all that 'First do no harm' stuff? 1
somedude81 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Are you talking about all that 'First do no harm' stuff? Not exactly but sure. OK. Just the thought of a doctor who thinks it's OK to take revenge on somebody for something like that is really scary.
angel.eyes Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Thats so passive though it doesn't give me any satisfaction. I know 100% that if I never contact her again absolutely nothing will happen. She will not initiate anything. She's not going to run back to me. She'll think, hey, my flaking finally worked, he finally lost interest. So that's why I want to do something active against her. To let her know in absolutely no uncertain terms how I feel. But she doesn't care. She's not interested. While you're seething, plotting, and completely distracted, she's studying, getting good grades, and getting on with her life. Do what's best for you--that would be to learn from your mistakes and move on. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 You can teach her a lesson by not giving her anymore of your time and energy. Just delete her number (and yes Facebook too if you have that) and move on. If by chance she reaches out to you in a few weeks or months, don't answer. The solution is real simple, you just have to bring yourself to making it simple. 1
Author datingnoob93 Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 Also I don't think its as simple as saying she's not interested. OK I did exaggerate when I said she never initiates, once in a rare while she'll throw me something out of the blue like I'm free on X day if you want to get together (without really being specific). Then I'll be like lets meet at noon. Then she'll say she's not available that time, or worse, I'll let you know later (and she never lets me know). So she intentionally teases me to get my hopes up then dashes them later. That's another reason why I'm looking to get even. Are you talking about all that 'First do no harm' stuff? what? I'm years away from that stuff, and I'm not harming her physically or illegally in any way. Just looking to cause embarrassment and inconvenience.
InnocentMan Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 You sound unbalanced. Perhaps she can sense this, and doesn't want to see you. Just a thought. 4
MidwestUSA Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 what? I'm years away from that stuff, and I'm not harming her physically or illegally in any way. Just looking to cause embarrassment and inconvenience. Oh, that's fine then. Good luck with that hypocritical oath thing! 1
Author datingnoob93 Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 No I'm not unbalanced. Just not very experienced (look at my name). And this just happened to me earlier in the afternoon so I am still seething. I could have done something else tonight, but I cleared it for her only for her to do this to me.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 You sound unbalanced. Perhaps she can sense this, and doesn't want to see you. Just a thought. Everyone gets unbalanced one time or another. But InnocentMan is correct, she senses that you are obsessed with her. Stop obsessing. Stop seething. Go do some exercises or run around the block. Calm down and stop thinking of "getting back at her".
InnocentMan Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 No I'm not unbalanced. Just not very experienced (look at my name). And this just happened to me earlier in the afternoon so I am still seething. I could have done something else tonight, but I cleared it for her only for her to do this to me. Chalk it up to experience then. It's how we learn who to spend time with. If you're going to plan some exotic revenge every time a woman pisses you off, you will be a very busy man. The warning signs that she wasn't that into you would have been there early on. Next time you may recognise them before you're $200 in the hole.
BlametheIrish Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) You allowed her to treat you that way, no one held a gun to your head. You can't control her actions but you can control yours. If she was such a disinterested person then why did you let it drag out so long? I doubt she really took her dog to the vet but if she had an emergency vet appointment take precedence over little ole you it just shows a compassion for animals, your response shows how selfish you are. You did this to yourself and now you want revenge on her? The best revenge is living well. In your case that means some self reflection as to why you would rather misplace blame instead of letting bygones be bygones and moving on. Edited to add:.She does sound like a total b word for stringing you along though. But you still did ut to.yourself Edited January 18, 2014 by BlametheIrish 2
isisisweeping Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Revenge is never a good path. It reflects poorly on your character, and seldom goes the way you expect anyhow. Just move on and stop talking to her. Revenge? Really? No.
truth_seeker Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 The best revenge: meet another girl and be happy. 2
WP4046 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I don't think she did anything wrong it seems like she's just not that into you. I would just forget about her and find someone who values you. And that right there is my issue with dating. After a guy spends money on her it doesn't even mean that she will feel the same. And now I guess the OP is supposed to spend even more money on someone else where the same thing can happen again? 1
WP4046 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 the main point in all of this is a woman is not supposed to keep accepting if she knows she is not interested 2
lollipopspot Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 So instead we made plans for today but the very last minute (while I was driving to her house) she canceled again because she has to "take the dog to the vet." Its great how she likes her stupid dog more than me...it's insulting to me how she thinks her dog is more important. Unless she was blowing you off, then it sounds like it was something urgent if the dog had to go to the vet - did you ask more about what was going on with the dog, and if not, why not? Please don't get any animals though, because I don't think you value them. The dog IS more important than you - she's responsible for caring for the needs of the dog, s/he's her constant companion, whereas you're just some guy who wants to screw up her life with your vengeance. I feel so incensed that I looking to take revenge. I don't mean physically or anything illegal, just looking to give her a hard time. I'm thinking about taking her out to a really expensive restaurant next time, ordering the most expensive dishes on the menu, and then just leaving her there. She'll have to pick up the tab and take a cab home. Or maybe posting her full name, picture, email, and phone number on websites of ill repute. That's sure to haunt her when she applies to professional school ! Any other suggestions on how to mess with her ?? I need to teach this disrespectful chick a lesson. This is a really scary mindset, and if she got a whiff of your values, then she surely didn't want to continue with you. Don't take women out to expensive places or pay for them if you don't want to be out some money and you're going to try to mess up their lives if they don't put out or like you. Look at your own choices. And reconsider the health profession angle. People who go to health professionals deserve someone who is caring and understanding, not someone with a vengeful character. 2
InnocentMan Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 the main point in all of this is a woman is not supposed to keep accepting if she knows she is not interested It seems like that's what she's trying to do... 1
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