Natalia0167 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He lives in texas and i live in Florida. We met through a social app and we became a couple after being best friends for months. We have had ups and downs in our relationship but nothing big until now. There was a big situation that happened few months ago. He told me that a girl started talking with him at tutoring center at college and that she was weird because she took a pic of both of them and he didn't know or wasn't prepared. I didn't suspect anything because i trust him. Well, couple weeks later he stopped talking to me for 4 hours and when he came back he told me that he was at a restaurant with his family and of course i believed him. Then the morning after he uploaded pictures of him and the girl together at the restaurant and he was smiling and close(he usually doesnt smile in pictures). I got pretty upset because he lied to me about that like he was hiding that from me. Its ok to have friends right? but at least tell me. Well we got over that i felt more "secured". He told me that he won't talk with her because she likes him but he doesn't like weird girls. Then this past week he has been weird. He usually calls me and facetime with me sometimes and now this week he didn't and he responded short. Couple days ago the girl commented on a pic of them saying "i miss you" and he replied "you never texted me back" and she said "oh let me check, oh its because i called you" and he said "oh yeah thats right". What can i do about that? He figured out my Facebook password and he didn't tell me until i noticed but i don't know his Facebook password and he also unfollowed me on instagram and now that i requested him he deleted one pic and i don't know which one. He used to not be like that we were really strong but i don't know whats wrong. Please help i need advice, suggestions on what to do, Anything Thanks
justwhoiam Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 How often do you meet this guy? How many times have you met him in two years? I would have gone nuts reading that message exchange on FB you reported. Was it public? For anyone to see?! Is he (officially) your boyfriend? What's the deal?
Author Natalia0167 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Hello. I haven't met him yet :/ The message exchange was public for everyone to see on Facebook. Yes he is my boyfriend.
justwhoiam Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I'm sorry I have to smash your dreams to pieces, but how can he be your boyfriend if you've never met him? You can have a crush on each other, but that's a different thing. And it looks quite one sided, anyway... 1
Author Natalia0167 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 well love have no limits right? we love each other and we video chat and talk on the phone. We have plans on meeting up soon so hopefully. I know long distance relationships are dumb and they are really hard i just have strong feelings for him and we used to be strong. I still haven't told him about the message exchange because i don't know how to tell him
Tayla Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Love from afar is still love, I will grant you that much. Yet a relationship, particularly one long distance still has its roots upon meeting and sharing moments. I have a huge crush on Johnny Depp and never been formally introduced to him so does this mean he is my boyfriend because one time he actually responded to a Tweet that I follow?Or that one time at a famous restaurant we ate together?? Not at the same table mind you but technically I can say I dined there in his presence Seriously, place things in proper prospective, I'm going to gamble that you are both rather young to be exploring this long distance thing beyond texting and facetime.
Author Natalia0167 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Love from afar is still love, I will grant you that much. Yet a relationship, particularly one long distance still has its roots upon meeting and sharing moments. I have a huge crush on Johnny Depp and never been formally introduced to him so does this mean he is my boyfriend because one time he actually responded to a Tweet that I follow?Or that one time at a famous restaurant we ate together?? Not at the same table mind you but technically I can say I dined there in his presence Seriously, place things in proper prospective, I'm going to gamble that you are both rather young to be exploring this long distance thing beyond texting and facetime. have you been in a long distance relationship before? it seems like you haven't. When you have feelings towards one person and the feeling is mutual it becomes something else just as if you were in person.
justwhoiam Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 When you have feelings towards one person and the feeling is mutual it becomes something else just as if you were in person. So it can be like that forever and it's the same as being girlfriend and boyfriend? No difference? Have you ever had a real relationship? Because it looks like you can't tell pears from apples. 1
Arieswoman Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I really don't get all this stuff about being the gf/bf of someone who you've never met. As I see it you are just penpals. If you haven't made any effort to meet in 2 years I would say you are unlikely to do so. Please come and live in the real world with the rest of us, you are wasting your life with something that is infinitly nebulous.
alpy Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I think in any ldr, regardless of whether you've met or whatever, what you are describing is a logical reason for concern. It could be nothing, it could the end of your relationship and you are never going to know until you ask him about it. Personally if I saw that on my boyfriends facebook I would be a bit suspicious. But you just have to talk it out. Ask him.
Solcita2 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I think people are getting a little bit hard on here and I'm surprised. However they do have a point. You don't have a LDR you have an OLR which might mean different thing to different people. In your case you're commited to this relationship and he is not... maybe at some point he was but right now, he's more interested in the present type of relationship. Flirting with another girl (because that's what he did in the facebook exchange) is bad, it's breaking bounderies. Doing it in a public pic you and everybody can see is childish... this plus him not investing in you two anymore it's making me think he WANTS you to break up with him. He is not respecting your relationship or you... I'm sorry, but to him, you're not his girlfriend, at least not anymore. ((HUGS))
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