DanielFife83 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) I Am in my early 30s and tired of being single, and I dont want to date someone with kids. What if I am single at 33 or 34, I want a girlfriend where I am her number one, will go on bf gf date nights with just us, do things like happy hour on Friday and movies, romantic getaways. Edited January 18, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
GoreSP Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Start by fixing your attitude. From your posts I've seen on here, this is a major problem. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 The older you get the harder it will be to find a contemporary without children but they do exist.
Arieswoman Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Why is this a problem? When I started dating again at 31 after being divorced, I didn't want to date a man with dependent children. I had none of my own and didn't want to be involved with anyone else's young children. I always got plenty of dates.
MidwestUSA Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Can you tell us what you have to offer a woman? Are you a college graduate? What do you do for a living? Live in an apartment or a condo or a house? Do you like animals, have pets? Your rather simplistic postings make it hard for us to give you suggestions.
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 The older you get the harder it will be to find a contemporary without children but they do exist. well then the woman will have to see that and learn how to accomidate her child and the boyfriend like what if I want to see oh BAtman vS Superman with her (If she is single with kids), I am just worried she wont put time aside for me what if I am single at 34 I mean. you never said there wont be any without children. whats the cause of this is there are TOO MANY accidental pregnacies, like getting pregnant with ones new boyfriend
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 I Am sorry what I Said of ones with kids but I am just at this present time not ready to deal with kids, and I feel I am forced to: as its either get married and have them myself or deal with some other guys kid. How do I avoid both?
Shepp Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Then stop worrying about **** that isn't even happening and go make something happen, make something of your life! 3
fujidabruin Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Hey Daniel, It seems like the general tone of your comments are pretty negative. IDK anything about your life, but if you are not presently happy while unattached then you are probably not going to be happy in a relationship either. I used to put a lot of restrictions and categorize potential dates thinking that I could only be happy with a certain kind of woman, from the right family. in the right career, with the perfect body, blah, blah, blah..... What I learned (thru the "school of hard-knocks") was that I lacked self-love and needed to please myself and not make a partner responsible for my happiness. Having a special person in my life IS A PRIVILEDGE. We are not entitled to be in a meaningful relationship..... Good Luck to you
fujidabruin Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Don't mean to be a jerk, but I can hear the "opera singer" in your words.... "I, I, I,... me, me, me... I, I, I,... me, me, me" Unknowingly, I used to enter relationships with this attitude and then became frustrated when they (BIG SURPRISE!) never worked out. In short, I just wanted to say that it was a real wake-up to see that my "relationship attitude" had to embrace sharing, gratitude, and compromise for me to have real fulfillment with a significant other. Sincerely hoping the best for you OP
mammasita Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 (edited) Holy ****ing **** I think what you need is some serious therapy to work through your issues. I'm not trying to be an *******, I'm trying to help. Edited January 19, 2014 by mammasita
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Hey Daniel, It seems like the general tone of your comments are pretty negative. IDK anything about your life, but if you are not presently happy while unattached then you are probably not going to be happy in a relationship either. I used to put a lot of restrictions and categorize potential dates thinking that I could only be happy with a certain kind of woman, from the right family. in the right career, with the perfect body, blah, blah, blah..... What I learned (thru the "school of hard-knocks") was that I lacked self-love and needed to please myself and not make a partner responsible for my happiness. Having a special person in my life IS A PRIVILEDGE. We are not entitled to be in a meaningful relationship..... Good Luck to you well if these single mothers wouldnt make dates be "Family outings" id be more open to it
Author DanielFife83 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 You can date younger women. they may look like children to me, what of ones my age, or ones that havnet met a guy to have kids with yet, dont want kids or cannot concieve kids? whats caused this is there are too many accidentaly pregnancies. and I want a girlfriend NOT RAISE someone elses kid, how do I set the limits on this as I Will tell her NO on raising the kid, its her kid, not mine. That is really asking for a lot.
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