Harimo Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 So this is weird, I mean it is the first time it happened to me. Story: So I chatted with this girl in a dating app and the conversation moved to texting. So after a week of chatting we went on our first date. First we went to a resturant then to her friends party. We had so much fun! I mean i get along perfectly with her and her friends. And then after a few hours she took me back to her apartment and spent the night. After having fun, we really opened up. I mean we talked ALOTT!! We have so much in common and all that stuff. And we decided that we would seeing each other and take it slowly. And she mentioned that she really liked me many times and i said the same thing. I mean for me this was the best date with a aperfect girl. She even told me to text her through the week. You get the idea we really get along. And then we chilled with her roommates, and i didn't leave until 5PM because i didn't want to leave and she didn't want me to but i had to cause of work. On the same night we texted and we chatted till the following day everything was great and then she stopped replying. The day after she was like she has been abnormally so I was like ok understanable. And then the next day she sent me a text saying she has been busy with school ( starting school next week ) and new job, and she is stressing out so she told me that she wants to reschedule the second date and she could the use the night for herself. I am an understandable person I know people have responsibilities and stuff so Ibwas ok with it. After 2 days (which was yesterday) i sent her a message asking about her and when does she want to reschedule. I still did not get a reply (now it is the following day) and yesterday at night saw her online on FB and sent her kind off the same message (Because sometimes my provide mess up and texts do not get delivered, so i wanted to make sure she got my message. Today i checked FB and has seen my messages but did not reply. What should I do? I am planning to give her a few days and "call" on Wednesday. Or should i do something else? I really like this girl, I can really be myself around her. And I know she feels the same too. I had one night stands. This was not anything near that. P.S.: She even texted me telling me that her frienda really like. She broke up with her 11 months bf 3 months ago Thanks in advance
mammasita Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 If she doesn't respond, let it go. It was ONE "date". That's all you can do.
Author Harimo Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 I know that. But we agreed to date through the whole semester and see how it goes. I guess I just want to know what happened? The sudden change does not compute AT ALL
MalachiX Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Sadly, women (and probably men too) have "sudden changes of heart" all the time. They can be enamored one moment and then suddenly do an about face. Being fickle is just part of the game. I don't know if this girl suddenly changed her mind. Maybe she just got stressed and needed some time for herself. Maybe she got freaked out at how fast you guys seemed to be moving (or at how intense she might be feeling about you) and decided to pull back a little. Maybe it's something more mundane. Give it some space. Pushing too hard isn't going to help.
Author Harimo Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 Yea that is the plan. But when should I contact her? Just wait until she replies?
angel.eyes Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) Don't reach out to her. Move on. She will contact you if she regains interest. Then you can respond, but honestly, you should just move on. You met on a "dating" app, hooked up, and now she's avoiding/ignoring your efforts to try and set up a date. She's sending a clear message. Unfortunately for you, I doubt she was looking for a relationship or anything more than your single encounter. Par for the course on dating apps, Craigslist, etc. If you're looking for more than that, I would meet women elsewhere. Edited January 18, 2014 by angel.eyes 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I guess I just want to know what happened? The sudden change does not compute AT ALL Her ex-boyfriend probably reached out to her and their having sex. Would that answer suffice? No, well no one really knows what happened anyway. Just chill out and stop messaging her. Go find another "perfect" girl to keep your mind off of this one, because there are other posts on this site where other guys found their "perfect" girl. There is an endless supply of "perfect girls" out there waiting for you.
Guitarisgood Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Actions speak louder than words. I find the thing with dating is you must mirror the actions of your significant other. If she becomes distant, you become distant. If she is all in adoration you can relax a bit. In this case but she has had a change of heart and you have latched onto her. Move on my good friend. There are plenty of woman out there who are better and that is what you deserve. One of the best killers of romance is to become that needy, clingy guy. Don't be him.
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