irc333 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Occasionally, I come across a unique take online dating profiles. A few times, I've seen some people most a word that some people may not know or be familiar with. Like recently, I saw this woman post how she's looking for a Christian man, has 3 kids of her own, and must have kids of his own as well in order to date him. On top of that, she mentions something along the lines of how he should be okay with her having a "blended" family. Now I can guess this COULD mean racially blended or perhaps 3 kids from 3 different fathers? Who knows, but if I would like clarification, it means I'm out of the running anyway. This is just an example, but isn't there something a bit snarkish about, "I am <insert this vague term here> and if you don't know what that means, we wouldn't make a good match anyway." How about educating someone for a change? Kind of reminds me of when going to a rather elite store that sells expensive items or a car dealership that sells expensive, luxury cars. Usually, some people would say when it comes to material items as such is more along the lines of, "If you have to ask the price of these cars, you cannot afford it." I recall hearing that line a while back, and it just rubs me the wrong way. "If you have to ask, you don't deserve to know!". Anyone see this as a bit snarky/presumptuous?
Frank2thepoint Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 This is just an example, but isn't there something a bit snarkish about, "I am <insert this vague term here> and if you don't know what that means, we wouldn't make a good match anyway." Anyone see this as a bit snarky/presumptuous? Yeah I know what you mean. I visit some relationship site where its members throw out vague and haughty acronyms time to time, trying to sound elite, while denigrating newcomers for not knowing what they mean. Oh wait, that's this site. 2
Keenly Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 When I see " blended " I think multiple kids multiple fathers. 1
Targetlock Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 yep i have to say this comes across as very pretentious and rude.
MixedUpChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Occasionally, I come across a unique take online dating profiles. A few times, I've seen some people most a word that some people may not know or be familiar with. ...isn't there something a bit snarkish about, "I am <insert this vague term here> and if you don't know what that means, we wouldn't make a good match anyway." How about educating someone for a change? Anyone see this as a bit snarky/presumptuous? Agreed. I also agree with Frank's comment about the acronyms. I was reading a long thread over the last few days & the acronyms were heavily used there. Shortly after I signed up for this site I found a list of acronyms & their meanings, but come on... are we really expected to have to print that dang thing out & have it next to our screen so we can constantly look them up? Personally I don't understand what's so hard about just typing out the actual words... but oh well.
InnocentMan Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I would have been pressing the back button the moment I seen the '3 kids' part. I wouldn't have got as far as the 'blended' issue.
angel.eyes Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 When they seek only dads and say he needs to be okay with a blended family, they are saying that if all works out, she, the guy, and all 3+x kids are going to be the next Brady Bunch. That's a blended family. Don't get all bent out of shape when people are upfront about their requirements. They are looking for compatibility. That's why people date. You aren't a dad? So it's irrelevant what blended family means. She won't date you even if you know what the term means. But someone else will be. Focus on finding that person. Much more productive use of your time.
MixedUpChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 When they seek only dads and say he needs to be okay with a blended family, they are saying that if all works out, she, the guy, and all 3+x kids are going to be the next Brady Bunch. That's a blended family. Don't get all bent out of shape when people are upfront about their requirements. They are looking for compatibility. That's why people date. You aren't a dad? So it's irrelevant what blended family means. She won't date you even if you know what the term means. But someone else will be. Focus on finding that person. Much more productive use of your time. But profiles like that are frustrating, because some people are so specific about who they think they'll be compatible with. What if there's a man who's perfect for her, but he doesn't happen to have any kids of his own & doesn't want to contribute to any new kids, but he'd be happy to be a step-parent to someone else's kids. Based on her "requirements" she's not even considering this as an option. Extremely shortsighted...
MissBee Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Occasionally, I come across a unique take online dating profiles. A few times, I've seen some people most a word that some people may not know or be familiar with. Like recently, I saw this woman post how she's looking for a Christian man, has 3 kids of her own, and must have kids of his own as well in order to date him. On top of that, she mentions something along the lines of how he should be okay with her having a "blended" family. Now I can guess this COULD mean racially blended or perhaps 3 kids from 3 different fathers? Who knows, but if I would like clarification, it means I'm out of the running anyway. This is just an example, but isn't there something a bit snarkish about, "I am <insert this vague term here> and if you don't know what that means, we wouldn't make a good match anyway." How about educating someone for a change? Kind of reminds me of when going to a rather elite store that sells expensive items or a car dealership that sells expensive, luxury cars. Usually, some people would say when it comes to material items as such is more along the lines of, "If you have to ask the price of these cars, you cannot afford it." I recall hearing that line a while back, and it just rubs me the wrong way. "If you have to ask, you don't deserve to know!". Anyone see this as a bit snarky/presumptuous? I see it as wanting someone who you feel is on the same wavelength as you. It depends on your priorities and what a person doesn't know about something important to you may very well be a clue that you aren't a good match. Some things are worth the "education" and some aren't.
Author irc333 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Agreed. I also agree with Frank's comment about the acronyms. I was reading a long thread over the last few days & the acronyms were heavily used there. Shortly after I signed up for this site I found a list of acronyms & their meanings, but come on... are we really expected to have to print that dang thing out & have it next to our screen so we can constantly look them up? Personally I don't understand what's so hard about just typing out the actual words... but oh well. Yeah, I knew of a woman on POF that had this comment, (She sounded irritated by her tone). "IF you don't know what an ICU RN is, then do not email me!" Apparently, a lot of guys have been asking her what that meant, and she was getting sick of it. Patience seemed to be also a lacking trait obviously. lol.
Teraskas Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Yeah, I knew of a woman on POF that had this comment, (She sounded irritated by her tone). "IF you don't know what an ICU RN is, then do not email me!" Apparently, a lot of guys have been asking her what that meant, and she was getting sick of it. Patience seemed to be also a lacking trait obviously. lol. Lol people these days. xD Speaking of 'ICU RN', I can't seem to find anything about it. My guess would be Intensive Care Unit: Restorative Neurology / Nurse ? I really don't have a clue tbh. But yeah, imo such an attitude is just straight up rude. Talk about an elitist attitude.
Author irc333 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Lol people these days. xD Speaking of 'ICU RN', I can't seem to find anything about it. My guess would be Intensive Care Unit: Restorative Neurology / Nurse ? I really don't have a clue tbh. But yeah, imo such an attitude is just straight up rude. Talk about an elitist attitude. Yeah, I recall seeing ICU emblazoned on wall plaques in hospitals when I was visiting my dad. And I learned about RN at the local college that had a "Registered Nurse" program there. But it's all about the attitude of how it was said, a lot of women seem to like to "talk down" to their audience. "Oh, I'm a member of MENSA, if you don't know what THAT means, then you're too stupid for me to get to know!" LOL For a while, I had no idea what it meant. I usually can find what words DO mean, even if I don't know them at first, if used in CONTEXT though.
Shepp Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Yeah, I recall seeing ICU emblazoned on wall plaques in hospitals when I was visiting my dad. And I learned about RN at the local college that had a "Registered Nurse" program there. Registered nurse - yes!! that was bugging me when I read your post! Why would you need to know that? I didn't even know that an I've been in intensive care - she might as well of been like 'only contact me if your in the med profession' I kind of get it, kind of, I get wanting someone to share the same interests as you but in the scenarios you've put above even if I did know what they meant their tone would instantly put me off, I hate it when people talk down to others. I work for the FD, we have to stay RFA to grab PPE and attend situations that are IDLH. Went to a TC in the week but the EMS were there first, there was a couple of ALOC's and a suspect GOA - but all I'd ask anyone to know is I put the wet stuff on the orange stuff " Everyone could do that with there job if they wanted (although fitting that many in a sentence did challenge me!) 1
Disillusioned Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Acronyms mean you're probably viewing a nerd's profile. When they start dropping all those college degrees in the profile (a sure-fire flag that you're dealing with an educated dummy), I used to confuse them by putting "C.C.T.D." after my name. They'd rack their pea brains and finally ask me what kind of degree that is, and I'd tell them "choo-choo-train driver". It made their blood boil every time. 1
Teraskas Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Acronyms mean you're probably viewing a nerd's profile. When they start dropping all those college degrees in the profile (a sure-fire flag that you're dealing with an educated dummy), I used to confuse them by putting "C.C.T.D." after my name. They'd rack their pea brains and finally ask me what kind of degree that is, and I'd tell them "choo-choo-train driver". It made their blood boil every time. LOL, that just made my day, thanks Dis.
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