vanellope Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) I wrote an apology letter to the wife today, no matter she write me back or not, I feel kind of relaxed now. Edited January 19, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
krazikat Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I wrote a apologize letter to the wife today, no matter she write me back or not, I feel kind of relax now. Do you mind sharing with us what you wrote? 1
Author vanellope Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 this is what I wrote to her, translation in English, sorry I caused you pain, I never thought I would ever do this to others, I feel shame on myself. I understand it's wrong that I should never involve in your marriage, it brings everyone hurting so much which I never expect. he and me was over, and sorry I didn't strong enough to walk away earlier to stop this situation. I hope you will accept my apologize one day and feel release. V 4
Author vanellope Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 writing this is not because of her threaring, it's because I really feel everything is enough for me, and in the end high self esteem save me, I really feel this MM don't deserve me, he is far from it. 5
Sarabi Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Bless you You did really well to take that step. That is brave. Hope she can try and heal and move on even though she has a lot to deal with but more to the point I hope you can begin healing too You are right. You are worth so much more and that guy doesn't deserve you. 2
goodyblue Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Uhhh... so, instead of getting an attorney, you gave her more proof to hurt you with. Wow. Okay. I'm not saying you shouldn't be sorry, but you definitely shouldn't have admitted to anything when it was clear she wants to hurt you, or her husband. Good luck and I hope so much that she responds the way you hope.
Author vanellope Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 for my mental part I feel it's good that I admit my mistake and give her a apologize. she might still want to sue me or not, that will be another issue I need to handle in future if happened. 2
krazikat Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Uhhh... so, instead of getting an attorney, you gave her more proof to hurt you with. Wow. Okay. I'm not saying you shouldn't be sorry, but you definitely shouldn't have admitted to anything when it was clear she wants to hurt you, or her husband. Good luck and I hope so much that she responds the way you hope. I am pretty sure the wife has enough proof already...and this apology could go along way in benefiting V. 3
krazikat Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 V, I know that sending the apology was likely not easy for you. I think it is great that you did it. Wishing you well on your healing. 1
lilmisscantbewrong Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I am not so certain. Not even a week ago the BS wanted her to sign some legal document and now she sends an apology letter pretty much stating in writing what she has done? Although I believe she is sincere in her apology, I am not certain this will benefit her in any way. 1
krazikat Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I am not so certain. Not even a week ago the BS wanted her to sign some legal document and now she sends an apology letter pretty much stating in writing what she has done? Although I believe she is sincere in her apology, I am not certain this will benefit her in any way. The wife has a video of V in a sexual act...I highly doubt this apology will exceed that proof. But it may make the BS chill out and redirect her anger. Contrary to popular belief on this board, most BS dont just lash out at ow for the heck of it. If an ow is apologetic and respectful it can positively impact how bs reacts. 1
lilmisscantbewrong Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 The wife has a video of V in a sexual act...I highly doubt this apology will exceed that proof. But it may make the BS chill out and redirect her anger. Contrary to popular belief on this board, most BS dont just lash out at ow for the heck of it. If an ow is apologetic and respectful it can positively impact how bs reacts. I don't have the believe that all BS's lash out - I really don't. I don't assume anything anymore. But given the fact that the BS recently wanted her to sign something and now she really has it in writing (in the form of an apology) she kind of got what she wanted. I hope it works out. Face to face apology probably would have been better, imho.
Author vanellope Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 I got a short message from him said he know I wrote her a sorry mail, and there is no more news from their side. so I think it's a good end. 1
krazikat Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I got a short message from him said he know I wrote her a sorry mail, and there is no more news from their side. so I think it's a good end. Sending positive thoughts your way...now go focus on you! 2
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