Confusedbylove Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 So I've been broken up with for a month now. My ex girlfriend called me about 2 weeks after our breakup. When I first saw the call, I purposely didn't answer it. She then texted me "hey friend, just calling to see how you are doing." So we began texting back and forth, for a couple of days. She wanted us to be friends, which I said sure to because I was kind of confused. She told me she wasn't sure if we were going to get back together. Then later she tells me I 100% want to get back together with you, were just not sure when thats going to happen. All during this time I am trying to tell her, we cannot talk its not beneficial for us. She told me she misses me, and I told her I miss her too because I do. One text from her was basically a plea, for us to get back together in my opinion. It was like "Im sorry Drew I was too harsh, I love you just the way you are, you don't have to change anything about yourself." I read that like she wants to get back together with you NOW. I told her what did you mean by that, and she just said that she was sorry. I told her I have to get myself better, because I am a sex addict and my relapses were apart of the breakup. So I told her when I can manage my addiction, we can get back together. Then about a week ago she texted me "I love you", and then this past Tuesday she called me to tell me, that she was going on a date with someone on Friday. I gave her the classy answer, "oh ok, hope you have fun" stuff like that. When she told me I about wanted to puke. I talked it over with my sister, and she told me that she didn't have to tell me, that she was going on a date with someone. We both believe that she is emotionally unstable, and that she knows exactly what she is doing, by thinking she can break up with me and get back together with me whenever she wants. In a way it is very manipulative. So I am really perplexed by her to say the least. It's been weighing on me the past day, so she has kind of won because I have been thinking about it. I am really tempted to write her a letter, or text her best friend who I know and often see at my job. My main question is, is she really going on a date with someone ONE MONTH after we broke up? Or is that a way for me to come crawling back to her?? She probably wants me to be upset about it.
margot13 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I think she wants you to be upset, otherwise she wouldn't say it. Why don't you just ask her outright? So I've been broken up with for a month now. My ex girlfriend called me about 2 weeks after our breakup. When I first saw the call, I purposely didn't answer it. She then texted me "hey friend, just calling to see how you are doing." So we began texting back and forth, for a couple of days. She wanted us to be friends, which I said sure to because I was kind of confused. She told me she wasn't sure if we were going to get back together. Then later she tells me I 100% want to get back together with you, were just not sure when thats going to happen. All during this time I am trying to tell her, we cannot talk its not beneficial for us. She told me she misses me, and I told her I miss her too because I do. One text from her was basically a plea, for us to get back together in my opinion. It was like "Im sorry Drew I was too harsh, I love you just the way you are, you don't have to change anything about yourself." I read that like she wants to get back together with you NOW. I told her what did you mean by that, and she just said that she was sorry. I told her I have to get myself better, because I am a sex addict and my relapses were apart of the breakup. So I told her when I can manage my addiction, we can get back together. Then about a week ago she texted me "I love you", and then this past Tuesday she called me to tell me, that she was going on a date with someone on Friday. I gave her the classy answer, "oh ok, hope you have fun" stuff like that. When she told me I about wanted to puke. I talked it over with my sister, and she told me that she didn't have to tell me, that she was going on a date with someone. We both believe that she is emotionally unstable, and that she knows exactly what she is doing, by thinking she can break up with me and get back together with me whenever she wants. In a way it is very manipulative. So I am really perplexed by her to say the least. It's been weighing on me the past day, so she has kind of won because I have been thinking about it. I am really tempted to write her a letter, or text her best friend who I know and often see at my job. My main question is, is she really going on a date with someone ONE MONTH after we broke up? Or is that a way for me to come crawling back to her?? She probably wants me to be upset about it.
Author Confusedbylove Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 I think she wants you to be upset, otherwise she wouldn't say it. Why don't you just ask her outright? I should. I am known to be too nice, so I guess I don't want to make her mad??? But whats the point of that, were not together anymore so I definitely should
mammasita Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 You're letting her mislead you. Stop allowing it. Stop being her doormat. Read the link in my signature.
margot13 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Hang on you have it back to front. She rings you to tell you she has a date and your worried about HER being mad. That is just nasty and manipulative of her to do that. No-one would do that without knowing it would hurt. YOU should be mad for her doing that. So go get angry....... :) I should. I am known to be too nice, so I guess I don't want to make her mad??? But whats the point of that, were not together anymore so I definitely should
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