teallytop Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Me and my girlfriend were together for two years. she asked me to marry her and everything. we moved to Wichita to go to college and we got an apartment together and a dog. I broke up with her because she wasn't being responsible and I freaked out over money issues. also my family doesn't like gay couples so I was trying to find a guy to make them happy. my ex started sleeping with a lot of girls. she cried and begged me to give her another chance and I didn't. now after she moved to Colorado I realize what I had and I wanted to get her back but I pushed her away to another girl. theyve only been dating for two weeks. she still says she loves me. she even told her girlfriend she does and that it won't ever go away. she recently came down to visit her new girlfriend. She came to visit me and cheated on her girlfriend with me. she said she didn't regret the kisses and thinks someday we'll be together again.. she is now with her girlfriend celebrating her birthday. the reason she says she doesn't want to break up with her to be with me right now is that this girl deserves a chance because she never left her side. I was scared about dating a girl so I never told my famly I was dating her for those two years. the new girl has no problem showing her off and I'm scared that even though she's still in love with me and that I can take her breath away with one kiss that she's gonna stay with her girlfriend now. I told her I made mistakes and I've changed and I would never hide her again. do you think she'll come back to me?...
DontBreakEven Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) Well, I am a lesbian who got broken up with by my current ex last year because she wasn't comfortable to be honest about her sexuality. She finally got back together with me two months later, but in the time I know she was trying to date men to "conform". It was hard to accept, but ultimately I felt like she chose me. I asked her to marry me 3 weeks ago, and suddenly she's broken up with me and run away again out of nowhere (who really knows the reason why at this point, it's always something). But you can't just play with people's emotions like that .. sooner or later, in order to heal, your ex will convince herself that you are a total flake and not to be trusted in the long run. Only way I think at this point to get her back is a grand gesture. Propose again to HER. Hold her hand in public. Take her to meet your parents. Show her you are for real about what you want, and that's her and only her. I guarantee she is still in love with you, she is just being cautious right now because you have shown that you can't be trusted. Become a person who can be trusted. PS, how long has it been since you broke up with her the first time? Edited January 18, 2014 by DontBreakEven
Author teallytop Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 5 Or 6 months. if I propose to her she'll say no. she won't even break up with her gf now..
DontBreakEven Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 5-6 months is a long time to have allowed her to move on. you definitely hurt her very deeply. i know if my ex came back in 5-6 months and i was lucky enough to have found someone else by then, i would be awfully skeptical to trust someone who could just leave me like she did. like i said, you would have to do and say something HUGE for her to listen to you at this point. if you really want her .. just keep at it and fight for her. she might act at first like she doesn't want it .. but women don't fall out of love that fast. she wants it. she's just being super cautious.
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