hippetyhop Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Technically, xMM are on a break to see what the future holds, yada yada yada (I'm not holding my breath).. ya, I know what ya'll will say, but I really think its over. Perhaps its his way of letting me go. However, in the sense of NC: if the xMP initiates it v. the OM/OW, do you think that holds more ground and the OM/OW not be contacted?
Rollercoaster Rider Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Technically, xMM are on a break to see what the future holds, yada yada yada (I'm not holding my breath).. ya, I know what ya'll will say, but I really think its over. Perhaps its his way of letting me go. However, in the sense of NC: if the xMP initiates it v. the OM/OW, do you think that holds more ground and the OM/OW not be contacted? Well..from my experiences, when I told him not to contact me...he was calling me the next day. Not respecting what I had said, and I always gave in to him. This time neither of us said "don't contact me", rather he said "I think it's time to say Goodbye, but you can call me if you need to". So, from reading on here and from talking to one of my friends, I think they will do whatever they want to do :-) I wouldn't call him though..ever! I fight the urges everyday, it sucks. But, calling him would only show how pathetic I truly am... and that's not happening!
vanellope Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I think start NC by me is better for me to healing, you will not lose self esteem too much and will feel good that you do the right thing later.
Author hippetyhop Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 Well..from my experiences, when I told him not to contact me...he was calling me the next day. Not respecting what I had said, and I always gave in to him. This time neither of us said "don't contact me", rather he said "I think it's time to say Goodbye, but you can call me if you need to". So, from reading on here and from talking to one of my friends, I think they will do whatever they want to do :-) I wouldn't call him though..ever! I fight the urges everyday, it sucks. But, calling him would only show how pathetic I truly am... and that's not happening! Round 1: He waited 2 weeks after I ended it; we emailed a few times, then we were "friends" then he contacted me 2 months out. Round 2: He said he needs to be "just friends as he did this by design; everything will fall into place, and "what will be will be". I wonder if the xMP ended it (we all know what "just friends" means) then they'll stick to their NC. 1
Rollercoaster Rider Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Round 1: He waited 2 weeks after I ended it; we emailed a few times, then we were "friends" then he contacted me 2 months out. Round 2: He said he needs to be "just friends as he did this by design; everything will fall into place, and "what will be will be". I wonder if the xMP ended it (we all know what "just friends" means) then they'll stick to their NC. I think that every situation is different, just as the people are. I'm not sure there is a definite answer. But, you can determine that answer by sticking to NC... regardless of who requested it :-) Do it for yourself!! Who cares what his feelings are...or what he wants. At this point he's still married..doing what suits him, not you :-) :-)
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