Thegreatestthing Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Four guys last two days asked me this question. What's the purpose of asking this question? Gauging men's response to me? I said I get a message every few minutes. Before one guy he'd been going on about not getting replies,I said not to worry about OLD that girls have too many options on OLD and that it's not reflective of him ( he'd been asking me to rate him out of ten) he is an 8 btw and no one replies to him. I also want to know if telling him I get a message every few mins (this is only when I'm online btw) I want to know if that would put you off talking to that girl.
Keenly Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Its a really stupid way of saying that you are attractive. 1
WP4046 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I have said it and I guess it's my corny way of being flirtatious LOL
gaius Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 It's helpful to get an accurate picture of the competition. 2
d0nnivain Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I wouldn't give him a straight answer beyond what you have shared. Women do get many more messages then men. If you like him deflect with something along the lines of It doesn't matter how many messages I get, I responded to yours & we're talking. 1
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Sounds like a very George Costanza thing to ask. My guess is they want to find out how many messages women truly get online. Why it would matter at that point when they are on date with said woman is beyond me. 1
regine_phalange Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Because some men are obssessed with numbers
Hopeful30 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 To me it sounds like two things. a) Insecurity. They wanna see how much competition they have or b) They're not sure about you and depending on many messages you get, they will either find you more desirable cuz more men want you, or less desirable cuz you don't get that many msgs. Thats the things that come to my mind when I think about it.
bene Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) Personally I don't like when guys ask how many messages I get or how many guys I have met through OLD before. This is the sort of thing I would discuss with my friends and not with a potential date. I am talking to YOU not other guys, why bring them up? (Potential) romance is between two people. When already in a relationship, people of course can discuss their relationship history to an extent but I don't see a reason to bring it up with someone I don't even know. Edited January 18, 2014 by bene 1
WP4046 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Personally I don't like when guys ask how many messages I get or how many guys I have met through OLD before. This is the sort of thing I would discuss with my friends and not with a potential date. I am talking to YOU not other guys, why bring them up? (Potential) romance is between two people. When already in a relationship, people of course can discuss their relationship history to an extent but I don't see a reason to bring it up with someone I don't even know. it's called flirting
bene Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 it's called flirting Sure, they don't mean any harm with it. But generally I would advise guys not to do that.
WP4046 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Sure, they don't mean any harm with it. But generally I would advise guys not to do that. why because u think they are being insecure?
bene Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 why because u think they are being insecure? It's not some cardinal sin obviously but it feels weird to discuss other men when it's supposed to be about the two of you. Also, I don't want to blatantly say "yes, you are one of many guys" so I'd have to come up with some vague answer
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 He had asked me out maybe four times but I'd told him to pursue other girls the night before and that we could be friends,probably why he was going on about lack of replies. Sounds like a very George Costanza thing to ask. My guess is they want to find out how many messages women truly get online. Why it would matter at that point when they are on date with said woman is beyond me.
Yur Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 A woman from an OLD date I had once said something like 'I heard guys don't get many replies on OLD?' which may have been the same type of thing. Maybe some people do it to get an idea how in demand the person they're interested in is
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) Yes that's what I was thinking some combination.i think it's kind of silly to worry about other men or other guys interest,if you like me you like me. One guy wrote saying "you probably get 40 messages a day" ? So I replied. The other guy wrote "how many messages do you get" To me it sounds like two things. a) Insecurity. They wanna see how much competition they have or b) They're not sure about you and depending on many messages you get, they will either find you more desirable cuz more men want you, or less desirable cuz you don't get that many msgs. Thats the things that come to my mind when I think about it. Edited January 18, 2014 by Thegreatestthing
FitChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Let's not forget that if a woman said she got a lot of messages, a man might decided it's too much competition/work for him and find a less popular woman who would be more motivated to date him. Next time someone asks you say, "It doesn't matter, now that I've met you."
MixedUpChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I've never had a man ask me how many messages I get, although a few have made general comments like "I'm sure you get a lot of messages". Actually that bugs me because I don't get that many, so then I feel bad/ugly/undesirable. But I do thinks it's silly for someone to ask you how many messages you get, before you even really know each other.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Yes, well since I told him,he does not come on and normally he would come on and write me everyday.i was starting to like him,I'm not sure what I should do.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 And he always asks me what the messages say,like to copy paste them. Yes probably I should Move on,but this is a guy that has asked me out a few times though :-(
MixedUpChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 But you haven't even actually gone out with him, so why waste time worrying about it? He's not coming online again anyway, so there's nothing you CAN do.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 He just sent me an emAil.
MixedUpChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 OK so he's still out there... so either go out with him or don't, if you're interested in meeting him in person.
evade Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Four guys last two days asked me this question. What's the purpose of asking this question? Gauging men's response to me? I said I get a message every few minutes. Before one guy he'd been going on about not getting replies,I said not to worry about OLD that girls have too many options on OLD and that it's not reflective of him ( he'd been asking me to rate him out of ten) he is an 8 btw and no one replies to him. I also want to know if telling him I get a message every few mins (this is only when I'm online btw) I want to know if that would put you off talking to that girl. I have to comment on this. 1-women dont have more options. its decpetive to think women have more options because the vast majority of those sending look like sheet and are only looking to screw you. 2-I have seen my competition and basically there isnt any. so guys send messages because they know if they dont try, they wont know. because the women are not sending them messages. 3-its like when women keep saying "I can pickup any man here for a fruck" its not a compliment to say such a thing since almost all of them would screw you and then never want anything to do with you again. those women who want to screw me do want a LTR. so stop saying it as it makes you look low class and cheap. 4-I get messages and replies to messages sent. im very selective to whom I send. not always the prettiest ones. I have to see if theres potential with what I read about her profile. but every single one of those I have contact with, only want a LTR with me. so women are scraping hundreds of men for crumbs or good looking men like me get messages and replies from a few good quality women. I would rather have a few quality potential relationships than mass garbage. its not a complimentary thing to see I get tons of messages. and in reality, I have more options than event the hottest woman there. you dont have quality options so get it out of your head. youre lying to yourself and youre ego is too blown up thinking that the loser men who send you tons of messages matters. in my experience from OLD. there is a possible 5% thats datable. Women have it SOOO much harder than men when it comes to OLD. there are much more quality women than men to choose from. 2
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