Shouldn't I feel about her the way she felt about me?

[btvdts]

it's been three months since the bu and what I've read on here is that she probally checked out of the relationship before breaking up with me. My question is why is it that it's been 3 months and I'm not where she was when she broke it off? I mean I haven't seen/heard from her in 3 months, but I'm she checked out while I was living with her. so even in my presence, she was able to get further then I have with her gone. Why is that? They say when the dumper thinks of breaking up, they think about it for a while. Well besides when she was at work, she would be with me. so doesn't seem like he had all the time in the world to make her mind, yet I'm in a new state, new everything really but I feel like she was further along back then than I am now .

[ravssss]

it's been three months since the bu and what I've read on here is that she probally checked out of the relationship before breaking up with me. My question is why is it that it's been 3 months and I'm not where she was when she broke it off? I mean I haven't seen/heard from her in 3 months, but I'm she checked out while I was living with her. so even in my presence, she was able to get further then I have with her gone. Why is that? They say when the dumper thinks of breaking up, they think about it for a while. Well besides when she was at work, she would be with me. so doesn't seem like he had all the time in the world to make her mind, yet I'm in a new state, new everything really but I feel like she was further along back then than I am now .

 

difference is she made the decision at her convenience ... she always had the option of having u if she failed to get over those thoughts because u were in the relationship ... she could lay the ground work of what next after the breakup ... and lastly the most important thing ... she doesnt feel rejected like the dumpee does .. because it was her call in the end ..

 

and now for the dumpee ... we are given the shock of our life ... and forced to accept it without a choice and the rejection feeling as well .... we dont do it by choice ... we just try to get over this because we dont have a choice ... and thats not very easy ..