ithappenedagain Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I am the "dumpee" she was the "dumper" I've been down this road before (heartbreak)...I am also very educated on the ''No Contact" rule when being heartbroken.. When I first started dating my now current ex, she asked how I was able to get over such a terrible break up (my previous ex cheated on me... dated/ lived together for 4 years)... I told her it was the worst feeling ever, and it was a long process to finally cure my heart. That is when I explained to her that I finally ''got it" but initiating the NO CONTACT rule for myself.... My current ex mentioned to me in her ''fairwell'' FACEBOOK MESSAGE last night that she wanted to initiate No Contact for the both of us so we could both heal.. I obviously have actually have implemented this before - she hasnt. We all know how hard following the NC rule is.. it takes a lot of self control. I am pretty sure most, if not all, have failed with NC. My question is this. Do you think she will fail being a first time NC follower? I am in no way looking or hoping for her to fail - as this relationship is dead - however it does have me wondering.. I have done everything I can think of to avoid her contacting me.. Deleted her from social network, blocked cell phone, etc.. The only possible way to get to me would be through email or contacting me via phone through someone else. Has anyone else ever had a "NC pro" vs. "NC virgin" before? lol edit: after reading this again, I decided it kind of would make me chuckle if she failed....cause afterall, she was soooo set in stone with going hardcore NC...
Princess3hunna Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I guess it would depend on the circumstance of why you two broke up and how diligent she is on healing herself. I'm a NC virgin myself, it's day 5 for me and I am the dumpee. After looking pathetic, feeling miserable, and sick of giving my ex the satisfaction I have decided to hardbody with the NC. Honestly I feel like if she's really doing it to heal then she might not fail. The fairwell FB message seemed like a lingering type of deal. Why not just cut it off?
sportzhl24 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I haven't had a NC pro v. NC first timer experience before. And I know it's fun to wonder about things like "is she going to break NC??" and stuff but I feel like you shouldn't be concerned with things like that. Just because she's a NC first timer doesn't mean anything; it doesn't mean she's more or less prone to breaking NC. Don't focus on the fact that she might break NC. Instead focus on doing what is best for you to heal. You know the drill bro
organizedchaos Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 None of us could possibly know if she will break NC. 1
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