Women: How would you like to be turned down?

[KatZee]

I would much rather someone be a man and tell me the truth:

 

"I'm just not feeling a romantic connection between us."

 

As opposed to:

 

"I'm not really looking to date right now." And then 5 seconds later seeing you in a relationship with someone else.

 

OR

 

The ghost move, the fade-out, and essentially the cowardly and pussy move.

[Onethirtyeight]

I would rather somebody be honest, and say, "I'm not interested." UNLESS there is a factor that is unchangeable and really is an issue (Ie, they won't see you with someone like that down the line, or have seen you with a person like that in the past.) If they are younger than you prefer, for example, "I won't date with that large of an age difference."

 

 

Right now, or anything serious, or anything else you put in there leaves a possible door open if someone is interested enough.

The "hurt" feelings of someone not being interested initially is better than the hurt feelings later, plus the realization you were lied to / pitied.

 

I don't think that would be a good idea. Its often because I'm not attracted to her, and that doesn't change. If I'm attracted to someone I'll usually at least take them on a couple dates and see if I like them. So I don't think saying something like "I only like fit women" would go over well.

[iris219]

Mostly its just them flirting really hard and its really obvious they want my attention.

 

Don't flirt back.

 

Be cordial but short with then. Give one word answers to questions and don't ask them any. Don't make eye contact and lean away from them. Women will get the hint quickly.

 

Women who make initial contact expect the guy to take over at some point and show clear interest. If he doesn't, she's not going to keep pressing the issue.

[Hopeful30]

Just say you have a girlfriend. Simple.

[Onethirtyeight]

Don't flirt back.

 

Be cordial but short with then. Give one word answers to questions and don't ask them any. Don't make eye contact and lean away from them. Women will get the hint quickly.

 

Women who make initial contact expect the guy to take over at some point and show clear interest. If he doesn't, she's not going to keep pressing the issue.

 

Eventually yes but I've had it take months before it really dies down if I just act normal around them.

[StanMusial]

Just say you have a girlfriend. Simple.

 

I've done this before (even when it wasn't always true).

 

If she is just flirting, I just don't play along. Sometimes a girl will just flat out ask you out though. I even had a girl at the gym leave her number on my car one time. She was persistent.

[truth_seeker]

then I have to deal with her being all persistent and possibly trying to sabotage a relationship I do want.

 

The sabotage out of revenge has happened to me.

[Confuddled1983]

I'm having this issue right now. No interest from anyone in ages and then 3 guys all trying to get with me and I've tried to be polite but skirted the issue but the hint is NOT being taken.

 

For example I am a single mum - I very rarely get time to myself (maybe one night a fortnight), so I've tried pointing this out - I do NOT have time for a relationship.

 

I have a crush on someone - I have put this up on my Facebook where all 3 are contacting me and they know it's not them I'm talking about because I've stated I've kissed my crush - I haven't kissed any of these.

 

Of course it's flattering to have people take an interest but now I'm kind of feeling a bit peeved that none are taking the hint, even to the point where I'm getting messages saying "Are you ignoring me?" - when I don't reply to their Facebook messages. I've given none of them my number or any kind of indication that I'm interested.

 

Anyone have any advice for me? I really don't want to be rude as they're all nice guys just not for me.

[regine_phalange]

"I'm interested in someone else". That will do.