gogogogo Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Ok so we have been broken up for 3 months she was secretly seeing another guy which I don't care about anyway cause I focused on my self, hit the gym and surf and just started dating other girls recently. So we tried to be friends and we just argued everytime we talked so I decided to walk away for good I blocked her on everything. Well about 10 days pass and I get a phone call from her best friend while I'm asleep at 11pm 2 nights ago. I didn't pick it up and I got a message saying please call or pick up its a emergency so I picked up on the 4th call and she said you have to come here your ex really needs you she's in trouble. (My ex has been going through depression and substance abuse) so naturally I agreed and went to go see what was happening. Turns out she was blind drunk saying the dude turned out to be a ******* and she made a mistake and she loves me. I was about turn around and walk out but they made me have a beer with them and she was crying and pleading me to stay the night with her I agreed to sleep in the spare room she snuck in and nothing happened just cuddling and spooning like we were in a relationship. I was doing really well untill now. In the morning she obviously was hungover and she said she doesn't want a relationship and she needs to sort her problems out alone. Which I agree but she said it's all up to me what I wanna do. She keeps putting it all on me. She has been messaging me a lot these past 2 days came and saw me at work also. I just don't know what she wants as when she's sober she hides her emotions. I know her friends and family love me and want us to be together so I don't know if it's them pressuring her? Or she knows I love her so she's using me? Or she generally loves me but can't tell me? (She's very prideful) when she was drunk obviously she could not control her emotions and everything came out. So any help ? I'm really confused on what to do? I love her and would like a second chance but I would be happy moving on also. Any input would help me dearly
iworthmore Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 are you a spare tire only used when the other is broken? she ended things and went to another man and when it became bad with him she remember you?? u want to be her doormat?? she's using u. whatever she said while she's drunk its all not true and u saw what she said cpl hours later when she woke up. she doesnt want a relationship now. she said it's all up to you?? she takes you for granted man. stop being available, go no contact for a while after telling her that she must be sure about her feeling and know what she wants. if she really interested in you again she will make larger effort. dont listen to her messages and action's. she lost ur trust dont give her it back that easy. stay away for a while, if she say it straight " let's get back together" then u can consider it and be sure to work it out again. give it some time, until u get clearer picture about what she wants.
d0cholliday Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I agree with iworthmore... Simillar thing happened to me few days ago... Accept her call or message only if she says I'm sorry, I love you and I want to try again, please have it in your heart to forgive me and give me one more chance, I will do everything to make it happen. Than lay down your terms, as example, no alcohol. Tell her she will have a tough job regaining your trust and etc. Be strictk with her, tough love... Till then just go NC. good luck
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