Journee Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 It all ended in june...I got him into trouble and you was told not to speak to him ever again...so I am doing exactlify that Except for a couple of weeks ago when I ran into him at the supermqrketbut that was unexpected... You did not get him in trouble. He got himself in trouble! It is apparent he will never change and has zero intention to be faithful, even through text. You would not want a man like this anyhow, trust me. You deserve better and so does his wife. You have been doing an amazing job at keeping NC. Remember, it's about you and not him. NC is for your benefit. It makes you wonder if there is anyone faithful out there at all. Please keep your head up girl. I just wish you peace right now. 4
Author Sarabi Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 You did not get him in trouble. He got himself in trouble! It is apparent he will never change and has zero intention to be faithful, even through text. You would not want a man like this anyhow, trust me. You deserve better and so does his wife. You have been doing an amazing job at keeping NC. Remember, it's about you and not him. NC is for your benefit. It makes you wonder if there is anyone faithful out there at all. Please keep your head up girl. I just wish you peace right now. Thanks for the support and good wishes
ComingInHot Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Sarabi, are you kidding me right now?! He did not!! What a @$!# After Everything he had the balls (can I write balls here?) to contact you?!! I hate that guy! You have come SO far from all of this and grown so much. I am incredibly impressed that you simply didn't respond when we all know that even though simple, it is so NOT easy!! I say ROAD TRIP Time!! Come visit and I'll teach you how to ski (if you don't already know*) ..Remember how "busy" you had to get in the beginning of NC? Go there again for a few and see if that works again?*?* MY BEST to Sarabi!! CIH* 4
Author Sarabi Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Learning something new is always a good way to keep busy and keep rubbish men off my mind I don't know how to ski so I'll book my flight and let you know(!) Sarabi, are you kidding me right now?! He did not!! What a @$!# After Everything he had the balls (can I write balls here?) to contact you?!! I hate that guy! You have come SO far from all of this and grown so much. I am incredibly impressed that you simply didn't respond when we all know that even though simple, it is so NOT easy!! I say ROAD TRIP Time!! Come visit and I'll teach you how to ski (if you don't already know*) ..Remember how "busy" you had to get in the beginning of NC? Go there again for a few and see if that works again?*?* MY BEST to Sarabi!! CIH*
ComingInHot Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Sweeeeet* How are you doing Today Sarabi? Better I hope! I think this is a perfect example of how an LS thread should go for people needing support* meeting you "here" has definitely shown me that the past is the past and it doesn't have to define a future friendship regardless of PAST decisions and "sides" of infidelity. I hope others, BS, exOW, fWS see this too* 1
Author Sarabi Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Sweeeeet* How are you doing Today Sarabi? Better I hope! I think this is a perfect example of how an LS thread should go for people needing support* meeting you "here" has definitely shown me that the past is the past and it doesn't have to define a future friendship regardless of PAST decisions and "sides" of infidelity. I hope others, BS, exOW, fWS see this too* Am very well thank you Its a lazy day-reading, watching telly, eating chocolate, looking for holidays and lying in bed...and completely undisturbed by "that guy" lol Hope you're having a good day too! 2
Popsicle Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 How long has it been since you last had contact with him? (I don't know your story)
Popsicle Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 It all ended in june...I got him into trouble and was told not to speak to him ever again...so I am doing exactly that Except for a couple of weeks ago when I ran into him at the supermqrketbut that was unexpected... Oh, well, in that case, never speak to him again if he's still taken. He asked for it.
Author Sarabi Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 How long has it been since you last had contact with him? (I don't know your story) Since june...is that 7months now? Anyway he said that he was happy with his family. He didn't want to know me. I was never to contact him again. He didn't want me in his life. He didn't want to be part of my life and I must never come between he and his family again and delete his number. So...I did all that; even set the email to block him and go straight to spam or bounce back to him as unsent. Just before christmas...I saw him at the supermarket. He said I looked well, he thought I'd left the city and gone home...I gave away little info but he told me his wife and daughter are fine and that they moved house(I didn't care to ask where)... Then! This week he sent those texts. For 6/7 months he has lived perfectly well without my "friendship" so I don't know what is wrong now...
Author Sarabi Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Oh, well, in that case, never speak to him again if he's still taken. He asked for it. Precisely. My end of the "never speak to me again" bargain still stands Lol
Author Sarabi Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 I think this helps them alleviate the guilt and pressure by saying do not contact me again or breaking it off on a regular basis. They rarely mean it. I could not tell you how many times we have broken up over six years. Wow...6 yrs... Are you seeing anyone/married? I guess its to reassure the wife/girlfriend too that they are doing their best to break off and get out of the affair and have no desire to see us/be with us again...
Popsicle Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I guess its to reassure the wife/girlfriend too that they are doing their best to break off and get out of the affair and have no desire to see us/be with us again... This is what I think. I imagine to be like an addiction to them that they are trying to kick. They want to quit but it's hard and they have cravings/urges and relapses.
whichwayisup Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Anyway he said that he was happy with his family. He didn't want to know me. I was never to contact him again. He didn't want me in his life. He didn't want to be part of my life and I must never come between he and his family again and delete his number. He really has a huge set of balls to reach out to you after 7 months and cutting you out of his life completely. Keep ignoring and actually if you can block him so you'll never see another text from him again.
hippetyhop Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I think this helps them alleviate the guilt and pressure by saying do not contact me again or breaking it off on a regular basis. They rarely mean it. I could not tell you how many times we have broken up over six years. Wow 6 years!!!! Probably making up/breaking up to keep the BS from getting suspicious if they are in too deep.
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