Sweetheartt Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I mean seriously he's a pain in the ****ing ass now & I'm sick of it. Here's what happened & how we met uggghhh lmao. He's in one of my classes at school (college) & we met when he came over to me & started asking **** about this test we was gonna have so I said okay & gave him some study tips but I kinda felt he was just trying to find a way to chat me up but I've been accused of being a bitch before so I try to be nice & help. BIG ****ING MISTAKE!!! He found me on Facebook & wont leave me alone! FYI he's been sending me a bunch of 'hey what's up' & 'I was trying to get your attn today' & 'I was gonna ask u to study with me after class' & yada yada. ITS DRIVING ME $*% I ignored all his messages & stuff but he still wont get the hint & 1 of my friends in class told him I had a boyfriend (nothing serious) but he insists he's not trying to get with me & just wants to be friends & study with me. I feel so annoyed & confused with him & don't know what to do anymore TBH & wanna drop the class just to get away from him but that's dumb to do. He sent me friend requests but I rejected all of them & he keeps sending it. I mean its bad enough I gotta deal with random Facebook losers bothering me with messages but I don't gotta see them IRL but this chump is in my class & I have to see him twice a week for 2 hrs & ignoring him isn't doing anything cuz then he'll just send messages asking why am I doing that. This is another reason why I hate NICE GUYS!! Has anyone been through this **** & how did u handle it? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Tell him flat-out to please stop messaging you. You don't need to explain, justify or defend that. Be clear and direct. It sounds like he's becoming a bit aggressive so nip this in the bud now before it gets worse. Also, I wouldn't exactly categorize him as a "nice guy", per se. Nice guys don't bombard you with unwanted attention. 7
BlametheIrish Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Block him on FB. And tell him in person you're not interested in interacting eiyh him anymore, period. Use the bitchyness to your advantage and say it in a no nonsense sort of tone. If he still doesn't get it then inform the school.or teacher. Maybe have your bf pick you up from class. Ignore amytjing he says to you in person after that too. Slme peoplr get off on negative attention as much as positive. I jppe things get better spon, I knoe hoe stressful things like this can get. 2
MrCastle Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 No one else looked at the username and giggled? Just me then? Lol alright. 8
NYC-BigKat Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I mean seriously he's a pain in the ****ing ass now & I'm sick of it. Here's what happened & how we met uggghhh lmao. He's in one of my classes at school (college) & we met when he came over to me & started asking **** about this test we was gonna have so I said okay & gave him some study tips but I kinda felt he was just trying to find a way to chat me up but I've been accused of being a bitch before so I try to be nice & help. BIG ****ING MISTAKE!!! He found me on Facebook & wont leave me alone! FYI he's been sending me a bunch of 'hey what's up' & 'I was trying to get your attn today' & 'I was gonna ask u to study with me after class' & yada yada. ITS DRIVING ME $*% I ignored all his messages & stuff but he still wont get the hint & 1 of my friends in class told him I had a boyfriend (nothing serious) but he insists he's not trying to get with me & just wants to be friends & study with me. I feel so annoyed & confused with him & don't know what to do anymore TBH & wanna drop the class just to get away from him but that's dumb to do. He sent me friend requests but I rejected all of them & he keeps sending it. I mean its bad enough I gotta deal with random Facebook losers bothering me with messages but I don't gotta see them IRL but this chump is in my class & I have to see him twice a week for 2 hrs & ignoring him isn't doing anything cuz then he'll just send messages asking why am I doing that. This is another reason why I hate NICE GUYS!! Has anyone been through this **** & how did u handle it? Uhh...that almost sounds like I'm that guy 'cause I used to send lots & lots of facebook msgs only to have them ignored til I started sending offers for $$ & then I got a few replies but now I'm getting ignored again & even I don't know what else to do . Um...I think maybe u shouldn't talked to him at all 'cause now he has a crush on u but is scared to admit it I think. 1
Author Sweetheartt Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 Block him on FB. And tell him in person you're not interested in interacting eiyh him anymore, period. Use the bitchyness to your advantage and say it in a no nonsense sort of tone. If he still doesn't get it then inform the school.or teacher. Maybe have your bf pick you up from class. Ignore amytjing he says to you in person after that too. Slme peoplr get off on negative attention as much as positive. I jppe things get better spon, I knoe hoe stressful things like this can get. I guess u went through crap like this before right? I spoke to my bf on the phone & asked him about picking me up Tuesday but then he starts asking me why & what's wrong & I don't really wanna get him all involved in this. I will tell this loser to bug the **** off if he asks me something but I don't wanna cause a scene at school either. I feel like I'm in HS doing that lol. 1
nescafe1982 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Why are you even letting him message you? Block him, and move on. Why just loll around in this drama, really? If he then approaches you in person, make it clear you aren't interested in being friends with him. Be assertive and calm. Getting upset might encourage him further. If he continues contact at that point, talk to a teacher. 1
NYC-BigKat Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Why are you even letting him message you? Block him, and move on. Why just loll around in this drama, really? If he then approaches you in person, make it clear you aren't interested in being friends with him. Be assertive and calm. Getting upset might encourage him further. If he continues contact at that point, talk to a teacher. Um...how come getting mad will encourage him? I don't get encouraged if a girl yells at me I get scared & stop before something happens u know.
truth_seeker Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I mean seriously he's a pain in the ****ing ass now & I'm sick of it. Here's what happened & how we met uggghhh lmao. He's in one of my classes at school (college) & we met when he came over to me & started asking **** about this test we was gonna have so I said okay & gave him some study tips but I kinda felt he was just trying to find a way to chat me up but I've been accused of being a bitch before so I try to be nice & help. BIG ****ING MISTAKE!!! He found me on Facebook & wont leave me alone! FYI he's been sending me a bunch of 'hey what's up' & 'I was trying to get your attn today' & 'I was gonna ask u to study with me after class' & yada yada. ITS DRIVING ME $*% I ignored all his messages & stuff but he still wont get the hint & 1 of my friends in class told him I had a boyfriend (nothing serious) but he insists he's not trying to get with me & just wants to be friends & study with me. I feel so annoyed & confused with him & don't know what to do anymore TBH & wanna drop the class just to get away from him but that's dumb to do. He sent me friend requests but I rejected all of them & he keeps sending it. I mean its bad enough I gotta deal with random Facebook losers bothering me with messages but I don't gotta see them IRL but this chump is in my class & I have to see him twice a week for 2 hrs & ignoring him isn't doing anything cuz then he'll just send messages asking why am I doing that. This is another reason why I hate NICE GUYS!! Has anyone been through this **** & how did u handle it? I'm gonna say in the next month you will sleep with him. You wrote that your boyfriend is nothing serious, which means you're fair game for a good time. The fact you're here gives the vibe you like this attention. The solution is simple: instead of ignoring, you message back that you're not interested in him. You have a boyfriend you are very into, and then you block him.
MixedUpChick Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 He found me on Facebook & wont leave me alone! He sent me friend requests but I rejected all of them & he keeps sending it. I mean its bad enough I gotta deal with random Facebook losers bothering me with messages Why don't you change your privacy settings so you don't get "random Facebook losers" contacting you? And if you don't want to do that, just follow the other advice about blocking him.
Barbarossa Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 It sounds like your being way too friendly to this guy. Just talk to him after class and tell him you feel like he's stalking you.
Marks Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 I mean seriously he's a pain in the ****ing ass now & I'm sick of it. Here's what happened & how we met uggghhh lmao. He's in one of my classes at school (college) & we met when he came over to me & started asking **** about this test we was gonna have so I said okay & gave him some study tips but I kinda felt he was just trying to find a way to chat me up but I've been accused of being a bitch before so I try to be nice & help. BIG ****ING MISTAKE!!! He found me on Facebook & wont leave me alone! FYI he's been sending me a bunch of 'hey what's up' & 'I was trying to get your attn today' & 'I was gonna ask u to study with me after class' & yada yada. ITS DRIVING ME $*% I ignored all his messages & stuff but he still wont get the hint & 1 of my friends in class told him I had a boyfriend (nothing serious) but he insists he's not trying to get with me & just wants to be friends & study with me. I feel so annoyed & confused with him & don't know what to do anymore TBH & wanna drop the class just to get away from him but that's dumb to do. He sent me friend requests but I rejected all of them & he keeps sending it. I mean its bad enough I gotta deal with random Facebook losers bothering me with messages but I don't gotta see them IRL but this chump is in my class & I have to see him twice a week for 2 hrs & ignoring him isn't doing anything cuz then he'll just send messages asking why am I doing that. This is another reason why I hate NICE GUYS!! Has anyone been through this **** & how did u handle it? Since you don't seem to have much of a problem calling him names behind his back and saying you hate nice guys, then why don't you stop being so passive and just tell him to stop talking to you? Then block him on FB if he keeps messaging you online. That should be enough of a hint. Live up to your attitude...just don't come running back later complaining that you can't find a "nice guy" (since you hate them so much). 3
MalachiX Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 He's in one of my classes at school (college) & we met when he came over to me & started asking **** about this test we was gonna have so I said okay & gave him some study tips but I kinda felt he was just trying to find a way to chat me up but I've been accused of being a bitch before so I try to be nice & help. BIG ****ING MISTAKE!!! That seems unfair. Why would anyone accuse you of that? He sent me friend requests but I rejected all of them & he keeps sending it. I mean its bad enough I gotta deal with random Facebook losers bothering me with messages but I don't gotta see them IRL but this chump is in my class & I have to see him twice a week for 2 hrs & ignoring him isn't doing anything cuz then he'll just send messages asking why am I doing that. This is another reason why I hate NICE GUYS!! Oh. Your honor, I'd like my last remark stricken from the record. 2
SJC2008 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Talk about a pest. Awkward situation given yall are classmates. Keep ignoring him till it blows over or message him and let him down esasy. I don't usually promote lying but since he can't take a hint make something up along the lines of 'I'm weird about FB, I don't friend people unless I know them really well, sorry, good luck to you.'
NYC-BigKat Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Haaa haa! I hate Nice guys! LOLOLOL! This makes me feel bad but I know being nice was one of the reasons I cant get girlfriend at all but to have this thrown in my face hurts a lot u know .
MalachiX Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 This makes me feel bad but I know being nice was one of the reasons I cant get girlfriend at all but to have this thrown in my face hurts a lot u know . Do you really want the OP as a girlfriend? She seems to have some rage issues.
NYC-BigKat Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Do you really want the OP as a girlfriend? She seems to have some rage issues. I cant really tell if she has rage issues but her pic is kinda pretty though & I don't think I'm her type anyway. She hates nice guys remember .
MixedUpChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I don't understand why anyone could hate nice guys, I'd actually like one of my very own! I think what some women don't like are ultra-passive, boring guys, not necessarily nice guys. I've dated a few of them and while they may also be nice, they're not at all interesting. I think nice guys can be interesting, they just have to work at it sometimes.
NYC-BigKat Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I don't understand why anyone could hate nice guys, I'd actually like one of my very own! I think what some women don't like are ultra-passive, boring guys, not necessarily nice guys. I've dated a few of them and while they may also be nice, they're not at all interesting. I think nice guys can be interesting, they just have to work at it sometimes. I have no idea how. I tried to show confidence in making the 1st move but girls always reject it or ignore me. Its disheartening u know. Why do I have to be like my uncle to get girls? Its not in my nature to be like him since he smokes cigarettes & weed & drinks beer & has tattoos & doesn't even talk much & girls seem so interested in him & these are girls in theirs 20 & 30s & sometimes older than that. I would give my right arm to get that type of attn u know.
Barbarossa Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I have no idea how. I tried to show confidence in making the 1st move but girls always reject it or ignore me. Its disheartening u know. Asking women out is all a numbers game. Don't let rejection sting so much perpetually ask women out and eventually one should accept. Nice guys don't always finish last I have faith you can at least be second to last
potsticker Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I think you shouldn't care so much about being seen as "bitchy". Regardless of what sort of impressions of you are floating around, there will always be people who will have a different one of you. As long as the people you care about don't feel that way, I don't see why you should care what a bunch of random people are saying.
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