hendrick48 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 (edited) So anyway, My story goes like this. This 2014 I got involved with a girl I met a few months ago that my good friend was dating at the time. Obviously I put here in the "dont even try" category because of their relationship. So moving forward to 2014. So I get a call from my friend and his new girlfriend that they went to see this girl and that she was coming back to hang out. They get here and his new GF says that they have a surprise for me... her and that she wanted to see me specifically. I was a bit confused, she is a good looking girl and I just have never been super great with women. So anyhow, we all go on a date (car is in the shop) and I pay for the food etc. Double date helps ease the ice break because she has been hanging out with and makes the overall pressure factor lower. I had to grab some supplies at the store for my surgery so we all went in and she helps me with my supplies and grabs my hand, and at this point I am alright with it and am overall nervous but tell myself that lets just let it roll. So over next few days we get really into it in the physical department. On the last day she was here, she said while we were cuddling that she really liked me and just wanted to take things slow. Now considering we were having lots of fun physically it kind of threw me for a loop. I havent talked to her since monday (my birthday) and since i was at her place (her moms) we only embraced twice. Now I know I am overthinking it, just I am trying to get a good gauge on the next steps. I am going to call her today to just to talk to her. I really do like her and although sex was part of the initial time we spent together, the talks we had before we really went to sleep were enjoyable and i like her personality a whole bunch. Just looking for some sound advice as my other relationships went in a progression of getting to know each other more, then more physical, not to mention, I had to put myself up instead of someone reaching out to me. It just surprised me. Thanks for the time to help me out. I also like to say, that sex isn't me at the core. Edited January 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Zahara Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Women have a tendency -- having sex too soon and then trying to take a few steps back because they're now worried that they may be perceived to be loose, afraid that the guy may want to use them for sex, etc. I don't think there was anything wrong with her wanting to go slow. Invite her out for a real date and go out and do some fun activities together. It will show her that you are genuinely interested in getting to know her outside of sex. It doesn't always have to be physical and in closed quarters.
todreaminblue Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 sex istn you at the core....dont overthink it...you have embraced twice since......she wants to take it slow.......enjoy the easy pace...let her set it...you will be more comfortable that way as well.....you are not an initiator you are new to it........she seems to be the regulator....she is setting the pace to you honestly and up front......let it happen...best wishes....deb
Author hendrick48 Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 Well I think I know where this goes. She has been seeing someone else as friends for a few months. She said she wants to get to know me but just wants to be friends. She said nothing has happened between them, but do I just move on at this point? Thats the vibe I got. She wants me to call later, but I don't know if that is such a great idea. Anything helps.
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