LaylaSings Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Do you still talk every day? Is it a full blown second relationship or do you try to control how deep you let yourself get?
bentleychic Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 For me it's a full blown main relationship, for him full blown second relationship. We talk or text daily. We see each other at least once a week. Say I love you often. It hasn't lessened. Our intent from the beginning has not changed (to be together full time at some point).
MissBee Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Do you still talk every day? Is it a full blown second relationship or do you try to control how deep you let yourself get? I take it you're asking as the married person based on your other thread. For me, we did still talk everyday, until down to the end where it got few and farther apart.
Crazy_Love Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 We've been together going on three years. We text every day. We see each other 4-5 days per week, sometimes more though we don't work together. There are no plans for us to be together as a couple, he wants it to continue this way forever, he very much loves his wife and I can't leave my marriage yet so it works for now.
Aspasia33 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 It's coming up to 5 years now.. And we email multiple times day. I'd say it's more intense now than in the first few years( for me anyway) as he fell in love straight away, and it took me much longer. We don't actually see each other much, about every month, as I have certain boundaries I won't break. One of them is I will not be intimate with my MM if my husband or I are are both in the same state. So I will wait until I go away ( I travel for work a fair bit) or hubby is away. May be a ridiculous boundary considering the circumstances, but I can't be intimate with MM then go directly home and face hubby. mM and I have been through a lot together in the last 5 years.. It is a full blown relationship, and the sexual side just gets better and better!at this stage neither of us intends to leave our spouses. If I did break up with my husband it would be due to problems in our relationship, not for MM.
Aspasia33 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Ps, in the first 2 years I held back from getting to emotionally involved.
whereamigoing Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Another one for full blown relationship. I referred to him as my boyfriend and we were in contact daily. Ironically, now that we headed towards an actual relationship I can't quite bring myself to call him my boyfriend. Maybe it's because I'm older now. Maybe it's be cause we've been through so much the title feels a bit ordinary?
flowingmane Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Full blown primary relationship for me, full blown additional relationship for him. See each other 7 days a week, in communication all day every day, make life decisions together. 3 years this spring. We don't call it an A, and refer to each other as BF / GF, even in public most of the time 1
SolG Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 3.5 years here. Still talk and email every day. See each other as often as we can. We are not in the same state... But have seen each other multiple times since he moved two weeks ago and will see each other again next week. While he has a wife and we are still a secret relationship, we refer to each other as partners. As in true partners in life - while we understand the application for others, we're not fond of the monikas GF and BF. We do not intend to ever marry or divorce our spouses (I've been separated from mine for a long time, he intends to cohabitate in separation as his kids are young) but are committed to future open partnership as of January 2015. I'm curious to know why you specified longer than one year?
GatsbyMH Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Nearly two and half years now. I'd say it's a full blown relationship. We see each other every day at work. We get together for intimacy purposes at least once a week and we see each other when we can on the weekends. We text off and on all day long as we can. Hard for her to get some privacy to do so since he knows we have feelings for each other but thinks she has cut us down to being just friends.
hippetyhop Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 (edited) Mine lasted 9 months; then BS found out about something from his past and we went underground for about 3 weeks. I told him I needed space til he got things settled at home. I wasn't expecting to hear from him, but 3 months out he got a hold of me. I fell off the bandwagon. We were talking/seeing each other (not often seeing each other) until a few days ago and he told me he needs me as a friend till things fall in place, he's said it wasn't as intense as it was as that was by design of him, "What will be will be' he told me. I told him that "if everything is okay, its the end; if everything is not okay, its not the end." He told me "its not the end." I'm not holding my breath. When we did reconnect, it wasn't the same. His guard was up higher. He didn't call how he did, couldn't see me as he did, etc. We didn't talk about what happened in July and what happened then. I'm not sure if the A was underground, or if he was keeping his guard up, or working on the marriage. I'm curious but will never know. One day we were planning to meet up for a lunch, but he let me know he was unable to as his wife was off of work and didn't want her driving past his work and not see his car there. I'm not sure what is going on. He told me it isn't that he doesn't have interest in me because he does A LOT, he needs to keep it on the d/l bc of his wife still being suspicious. I'm not really sure what to believe. So in essence, yes, it was a year; but, I think now it is totally over. Now its my time to flee! Edited January 19, 2014 by hippetyhop
TaylorLane Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Full blown primary relationship for me, full blown additional relationship for him. See each other 7 days a week, in communication all day every day, make life decisions together. 3 years this spring. We don't call it an A, and refer to each other as BF / GF, even in public most of the time Same exact situation for me. It'll be 2 years in the spring. If someone didn't know any better, they would never guess we aren't "normal". All our friends also refer to us as bf/gf as we do with eachother as well, and they all know the deal. We don't hide, we are in public all the time. "normal" couple stuff, dinners, shopping, friends, ect. Only thing is that he goes home at some point and is still legally married..
Lady2163 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 After 7 years...we have had to make some changes. We probably had daily contact the first few years. Email, text and talk. Now we mainly just talk, probably four days a week We don't laugh and joke as much as we used to. But, there is still playfulness and affection. We are kind to each other. His humor comes out the best with me when we do occasionally text or email.
Author LaylaSings Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 I guess I specified over a year because it would be hard to consider that length or more time than that a fling, or just lust in my opinion. I'm sure not in every case.
SugarHibiscus Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Hi Layla! I was MIA for a couple of days. I talk to my OM every day. Usually twice and we see each other once a week.
hippetyhop Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Hi Layla! I was MIA for a couple of days. I talk to my OM every day. Usually twice and we see each other once a week. we were like that as well until bs became suspicious. the change from something to nothing sucks.
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