co456 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 (edited) I'm in a sticky situation right now, ive been dating my girlfriend for 1 year and a bit now but as of recently I've lost my way. I still find her physically attractive, how ever the emotional aspect isn't there. It feels like a chore to go out and do things with her, I don't feel the same anymore and its left me wondering what's happened to us. Often times I feel like she's being to needy and as a result I spend a great portion of my day giving her attention. She gets jealous very easily, the sight of me texting one of my female friends will make her extremely insecure and jealous and often times cause us to fight. In addition she has anxiety problems which I always have to be there to reassure her for. Don't get me wrong, she's a great girl and I think she's very beautiful and the sex is great, but in the end I just feel lethargic and feel like all of the drama she's bringing in is ultimately pushing me away from her. I've been debating whether or not to break up with her but the thought of it always leaves me with 'what if' questions such as "what if I never find another girl like her" or "What if I regret breaking up with her" or "what if I can't get over her" At one point in time I really thought I could go the mile with her, it felt like she was perfect for me and she knows literally everything about me, I really feel lost in my emotions, caught up between what I'm feeling at this moment and the nostalgic, good memories and attributes this girl has. Edited January 17, 2014 by co456
Philosoraptor Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 You need to decide what is going to be best for your long term future. Don't choose to stay out of a fear though, that is simply another way to say you're settling. Communicate and let her know how her actions are affecting you. If things can be fixed, you may just get the best of both worlds. If they can't be fixed, well you have to decide if this is something you can and want to live with. 2
Kopite Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Yep. You're still in the moment when you and she can do something about it. Give her a chance at least. Tell her how you feel and maybe she will make an effort to improve things. Don't give up just now. If things stay the same after your wakeup call to her, then you can start thinking about what you want to do i.e. accept things as they are or move on without her
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