GF wants to know what turns me on...tricky question??

[cityguy001]

Hi, looking for some advice from members here...or at least some insight.

 

I have been seeing an amazing woman for approx 3 weeks now. Things are moving along very well. Everything is perfect. One question I was asked during a particularly steamy moment, was 'what turns you on sexually babe?' Now I'm no dummy here. I was basically looking at walking through a virtual mine field and my 'proceed with caution' alarm went off. I sort of side stepped the question to see her prefs first but she did the same...obviously we don't want to show the freak card yet LOL!

 

I'm ok with saying that it is easier to say what turns me off. Which isnt much. I have a few simple rule...do what you want as long as its with your partner and you both want it. And thats what I said.

 

I'm interested in some of your thoughts, stories, advice, caveats, anything. Did you get freaked out by a partner who was way more freaky than you thought? Is this a good conversation to have in the first place?

[Philosoraptor]

Tell her saddles, whips, and Wilfred Brimley. That'll let her know you want to play horsey and get diabettus together.

 

Or you could just be honest and see if the two of you are compatible rather than playing games and wasting time.

[mammasita]

I personally don't like having those conversations during steamy moments.....I like to bring that stuff up over frozen yogurt or a game of monopoly. Less pressure and catches him off guard.

[cityguy001]

I personally don't like having those conversations during steamy moments.....I like to bring that stuff up over frozen yogurt or a game of monopoly. Less pressure and catches him off guard.

 

I like that plan... thanks.

[d0nnivain]

You can & should tell her the truth but make sure she understands that it's not necessarily a request that she do anything she's not comfortable with. Hopefully you can also find things that she likes, is already doing . . . for example if you really love white lingerie vs. black tell her that.

 

 

Unless you are positive it will be well received, don't stray too far from the vanilla path at first . . . after only 3 weeks I'm not sure you have that level of trust yet.