bizzylizzy Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Hello! I need advice on a guy that I like. He was a friend of a friend and we started hanging out. He is really chill and sweet. We have been seeing each other for 2 months and he always sends texts the next day saying how much he enjoyed it, how beautiful I am, stuff like that. The problem is that I have to initiate everything. Texts, invites, holding hands, I even have to initiate kissing. I know this isn't normal. Is he not into me? It's weird because he has sent me flowers, always says sweet things, but just doesn't make a move. He just kisses me on the head or hand after we have been out unless I initiate a proper kiss. What should I do?
saltyfishhead666 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 You should back off and let him do some of the leg work. He's so comfortable with you doing all the work and letting him sit back and do nothing that is allowing him to treat you like this. Back off, get a new hobby or be too busy to see him, don't start off texting him - reply to the one's you get (maybe don't reply to all though) Men get lazy and now he know's he has you that's exactly what he's doing. If he doesn't change and make more effort then yep hes gone off you and probably onto someone else x
Author bizzylizzy Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 Thanks for the advice. I really like this guy a lot though. Is ignoring him really the way to go?
PegNosePete Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 It doesn't matter how much you like him... it's how much he likes YOU that is important here! You don't have to ignore him, just let him do some of the work. If he doesn't, then he's shown you how much he cares.
Author bizzylizzy Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 I just don't understand. We can spend hours talking. He understands me. Says the sweetest things. He just doesn't make a move. Has anyone experienced this? Other guys I have dated couldn't wait to make a move. It has been 12 dates.
d0nnivain Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I know it's you initiating again, but ask him. My husband is pretty laid back. I complained for a while that he doesn't initiate. It's taken a long time but now he is finally more affectionate. Heck, it took the poor guy 'til our 3rd date to kiss me. . . . I was gonna break up with him if it didn't happen that night.
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