JonathanAnder Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I need some deep advice guys.. I am a 23 yr old guy and my girlfriend of 2 years is 27. I am from (USA and she is from France). We had a great relationship even though most of the time it is long distance. She visit here in US and I visit in France most of the time. Basically I am suppose to move in with her in France on March permanently but finally I got a job here in USA as a web designer I haven't told her I got this job. What should I do guys? Should I just break up with her?? We both love each other so much. but as I am young and wanted to focus on my career and my financials. I am 100% sure that if I told her that I got the job and I'm staying in US we would break up as we can't stand the distance anymore and I'm breaking all the original plans that we had.. Basically she had a job in France that she can't leave as she is a manager and she love the job so she can't move in with me here.. I deeply love her and I am scared that I can't take find anyone like her again.. I don't even know if I can take the break up as we will be both devastated about it. Am I too young to be settling down? She is a wife material and I never felt the spark that we have. What should I do guys?
TylerDurdenn Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Difficult one, personally I think money isn't worth half as much as happiness. Good luck 1
chris21422 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 hmmmm 23 yrs old. This is definitely a hard one to choose but women come and go bro. If you go to France what job can you find? I say focus on your career and financials but this is just my opinion man.. 1
Apparition Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 First and foremost, you should be discussing it with your girlfriend. You never know what she might say. You're both young, and it's good you both are focusing on your career as well as your relationship. However, I do not know what made you think of breaking up with her. You could have started the job just to see how it goes, and seen if you enjoyed it more than you would enjoy spending time with your girlfriend? But, for me, that would be impossible, and also selfish. If I loved her, and wanted to be with her, then I would definitely choose my girlfriend over any job. And yes, sometimes, girlfriends come and go. So do friends, and so do jobs. But, a family you create, does not. It stays with you for the rest of your life. And my point right there is, if this is the girl you want to create a family with, plan to spend forever together, is your job really worth losing that? I hope with whatever decision you make, you are happy with it. Good luck. 1
Author JonathanAnder Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 Thank you for the advice.. Discussing it with her it's like breaking up with her as there is no way for us to see each other anymore and being together permanently.. The stress with long distance is breaking us apart. It's really hard so much being far from each other and having No plans what the future is when I take the job. Only solution I can think of is just to break up with her so we can both focus on financials and if we really are for each other.. We will meet again when the right time comes. First and foremost, you should be discussing it with your girlfriend. You never know what she might say. You're both young, and it's good you both are focusing on your career as well as your relationship. However, I do not know what made you think of breaking up with her. You could have started the job just to see how it goes, and seen if you enjoyed it more than you would enjoy spending time with your girlfriend? But, for me, that would be impossible, and also selfish. If I loved her, and wanted to be with her, then I would definitely choose my girlfriend over any job.
Author JonathanAnder Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 If I think about it I think I can't get a proper job in France as I don't speak their language and the salary that I will be making here in US will be a huge difference. I am also in deep financial trouble at the moment that's why I am choosing career over her. hmmmm 23 yrs old. This is definitely a hard one to choose but women come and go bro. If you go to France what job can you find? I say focus on your career and financials but this is just my opinion man..
Els Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 If I think about it I think I can't get a proper job in France as I don't speak their language Then how did you intend to go to France permanently in March to begin with? What visa would you be going on?
chris21422 Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Man it's hard situation. Let go of the relationship and find someone near you. Long distance never really work and it's always have an expiration.. I know it will be hard but focus on yourself and your financial. You are 23 still too young in my opinion to settle down.. I know that you love her but if you are in financial trouble you need to do whats best for you. If I think about it I think I can't get a proper job in France as I don't speak their language and the salary that I will be making here in US will be a huge difference. I am also in deep financial trouble at the moment that's why I am choosing career over her.
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