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Ive been dating a friend for two months. Wed known each other a couple years but due to being friends and me always being in other relationships I never pursued it until 2 months back.

 

I like her, shes really cool, laid back, kind and we have good chemistry. Most importantly shes not pushy or jealous like my last serious girlfriend, something I really am enjoying.

 

The problem is I havent been feeling the "spark" recently and Im not sure what to do, because I know shes good for me in a number of ways, just Im not feeling as strongly as I think I should after two months.

 

Im torn about whether to give it some time or cut my losses.If the latter, how can I make it as pain free and easy for her? she is a good friend and I have a lot of respect for her and dont want to hurt her

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Two months is nothing!! Keep hanging out with her. Take things slowly...

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do what yoru heart says to do ...if you follow your heart you will be compassionate and kind with whatever you decide to do.....dont force feelings that arent there.....give it time.......see if they develop if not......listen to your heart......be truthful but considerate

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If you already lost the spark at 2 months, then what more in a year?

 

That said, I'm not a believer of "the spark." It's attraction not love, and RSes based on that spark alone tend to crumble once it fades. So break it to her gently while it's still early. Don't wait for her to get too emotionally invested if you're going to end it eventually anyway.

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Ignore my first post. I tried to edit it but it wasn't possible.

 

I see I completely misunderstood your post... I misread it.

 

Yeah, if it's only been 2 months and you feel like this, maybe it's better to end things. Do it before she falls for you.

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Chances are that if you have not felt a spark yet, you won't. Perhaps you could tell her you got back with an old girlfriend. I had a guy once who was too kind to end it with me, and he would send me emails saying he would call soon (he didn't) and he sent me a card once in the mail saying he would call soon, etc. and he never did. I finally ended up calling him, and left two messages on his cell phone, and he never returned my calls. In other words, it's best to make a clean break so that there are no misunderstandings. It will take her longer to get over you, if she's thinks you are still interested, and that there is hope. Good Luck

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My word you lot are quick to jump on the dumping band wagon! Lol.

 

What do you mean by the spark? Bad sex? Is she not that hot?

 

You said there is good chemistry.

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Do you two get along? You talk together well? Communicate? Have fun together? I don't see what the problem is, unless you're just not attracted to her?

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