Husband won't divorce, dad a gambler, lots of stress, what to do?

[scorpion123]

I am feeling really fxxx up with my life.

Just allow me to vent my unhappiness over here.

My marriage has failed with my husband deserted me for another woman. Things fell apart one and half year ago. Now, he is shunning away from the divorce and refusing to make any more move to settle our outstanding matters. Just hiding in his nutshell and his lawyer also keep making a lot of ezcuses.

My own family also in a mess. Now, I became the sole bread winner for the family. My father became a gambler. The whole family has no warmth or love at all.

I hate my job and wanted to change a new job. Not sure what I actually wanted. I encountered problems in getting things done at workplace

 

The first thing to come to my mind is to work in another country. But my mom is always against it. Recently, my mom went for some medical check up and found that she might be running into some implications. So, the doctor is asking her to go for a retest.

 

What should I do? I am feeling very stressed when I thought oif all these problems. I do not wish to tell to my friends. They just know bit and pieces

[on the edge]

this might sound kind of off the wall but..

 

i read somewhere that if your flying in a plane and something unforeseen happens and the oxygen masks drop, your first reaction is to put the mask on your child's face instead of your own. but actually you should put the mask on first. reason being that you can't help yourself, your child or anyone else if your passed out.

 

i guess what i'm getting at, is that you have got to take care of you first. you have to be able to think with a clear mind in order to work through all this "mess".

 

if it means that you find a job in another country then go for it. maybe if you could confide in a close friend or counselor, they might be able to give you a different perspective on the situation(s). one day and one thing at a time.

 

i know it's easier said than done. i have to make a conscience decision every day to slow down and take each "problem" one at a time. eventually you start seeing some light at the end of the tunnel!

 

i hope all gets better for you soon!