DreamLost Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 The fact that he is going back to the place he used to live doesn't mean he's going to hook up with girls. The first thing you need, as many have suggested in this thread, is to keep your cool. The truth hurts but no one wants to be with a negative and needy person - stay positive, go do something that can get your mind off him and stay NC. You need to be strong and we will support you.
seekingpeaceinlove Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 So...let me get this straight. He dumped you bc he felt guilty for not being there for you while you're struggling with depression due to losing your father to a horrible disease. Yet, you're the one apologizing and chasing after him???? WHAT are you apologize for? For not being there for him as you try and cope with the passing of your father? For being depressed? Stop it. Love yourself first and foremost. You are going through a tremendously difficult period in your life right now and the ones who stick with you and support you are the ones who are worthy of your love in return. Not someone who chooses to no longer be a part of your life! This quote that has helped me get through some dark times through my break up: "Love is choosing to serve someone despite their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it's seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship." Your ex chose to jump ship. He is not the right man for you. You must move on and heal yourself. I know it feels wrong..I know you hold out hope but you have no choice but to tell yourself, this is not the right guy for me...over and over again. You will heal and you will be a stronger person but it'll take time. I'm almost 6 months from being dumped after 1.5 year relationship and I'm doing great though I still have ways to go. The first 2 months were hell but little by little I started doing better. Now, I'm glad that the relationship ended. My ex has been initiating contact saying he misses me, wants to see me etc. Though I still love him, I do not want him back. He jumped ship and I know he could never give me what I need in a partner. I wish you the best, my dear. I promise you will be ok. 2
jphcbpa Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Everything happens for a reason. I'm a firm believer in this. And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation-some fact of my life -unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake.I have heard this message two days in a row.
jphcbpa Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 "Love is choosing to serve someone despite their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it's seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship." Your ex chose to jump ship. He is not the right man for you. You must move on and heal yourself. I know it feels wrong..I know you hold out hope but you have no choice but to tell yourself, this is not the right guy for me...over and over again. . You could never trust a person like this. What would happen when times would great really hard? You would always feel like he has one foot out the door. That is not a relationship.
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