Bishop556 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Hello, I am a physics major, and as you can imagine, very few women are in my classes. I want to meet someone who is fun, cute, and intelligent. I know this is hard to do, as that type of person would be a catch in anyone's eyes. Where would I be able to find intellectual women on my college campus?
Mrlonelyone Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I am someone farther along on this than you are and closer to the point of being a professor somewhere sometime soon. Your best bet is to keep your eyes peeled for a woman in your physics classes. Let me tell you there is nothing like having a girlfriend you can flirt with using the language of matricies and vectors. Where they are the one using that language and thinking it's cute and sexy. There is nothing like finding a woman whos into physics and being able to 100% share all of that part of you with them. The problem is if they are cute then many other men will be after them. The good news is that such women will, like you, want a man who thinks like they do and rapidly tire of mentally dull men. That said. Your next best bets are other physical sciences, allied health, and non uppity and non pretentious English and fine arts women. Where you will find these women is in classes. Take classes in other departments if you can. It gives you an excuse to see someone and get a chance to know them without any specific pressure. You also get to see what they are really like without the pressure of dating. Source: Two of the best women I've ever met were in science classes and both are still into science. One was on and off for about five years. The last one was about 8 months but we spent so much time together, over and above anything needed for school it was like having dated for 20 months. 1
Author Bishop556 Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 There are only two women, and yes.
datingnoob93 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 (edited) You are def not going to meet them in physics class. I was an engineering major and there are like no hot girls at all in engineering. I switched majors and I'm now biology/pre-med, and there are TONS of good looking pre-med girls. Many of them are pretty smart but be careful because the one who are really serious about getting into medical school will prioritize their studies and can have nasty entitlement attitudes (why did I get an A minus in that class its gonna ruin my GPA how am I supposed to get into med school?!! etc) Also if you go to a big school there should be lots of pre-med events and get togethers (usually for ppl looking to boost their CV's) and you can attend regardless of your major. Oh and yeah there are a lot of hot art majors but they have a different sort of intelligence, its more right brain and creative, dunno if that's your type. Also nursing majors are really hot as well but you probably won't get to interact with them often because their curriculum is very specialized beyond the first year. Edited January 17, 2014 by datingnoob93 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 There are only two women, and yes. But are you bigger, stronger and more manly than they are O.o
angel.eyes Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 The library, other classes, extracurricular activities that interest you. I would also do things where the ratio of women to men works in your favor (e.g. yoga classes, salsa or other dance classes).
Mrlonelyone Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 OP here is something you should consider. Suppose you meet your woman of intelligence. Then what? Would you want to marry her. What if she gets into a better graduate school than you would you move to support her? Would you forgo your career for hers? Think about what is known as the "two body problem" So dubbed because it was physicist who named it. Other high powered couples have dealt with it too. Often it can tear people apart. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two-body_problem_(career) Are all of the few women in your class taken? In physics classes yes. Often there women are outnumbered by men three to one. There is always a "boyfriend" or a man who's interested of some kind. That I held onto one such young woman in the face of brutal competition for her right until...well... I graduated and moved a couple hours away says something about me. His response illuminates what I've been dealing with doesn't it. It' not just old MLO with this problem. The fantasy is to someday get hitched to the next Marie Skłodowska-Curie or Mileva Maric-Einstein. Then have super smart decent looking children.
Els Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 In physics classes yes. Often there women are outnumbered by men three to one. There is always a "boyfriend" or a man who's interested of some kind. Outnumbered, but not always taken. I was in such classes and, although I was taken, I had single female friends. They eventually got hitched but not to guys in the class, but rather to guys outside it who actually asked them out. None of the guys in class did. But yes, since the girls in the OP's class ARE taken, that is out of the question. Another option would be clubs/societies in college. If you choose the more intellectual ones, there is a higher chance of meeting intellectual women.
soccerrprp Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Well, as a physics major, i suspect that your idea of "intelligent" is myopic. You want to be in a better position to meet "intelligent" women, don't spend your entire time around engineering/physics buildings, clubs, activities. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Just because she is partying & hanging out a fraternity party doesn't automatically make her dumb. Worry about liking her & connecting with her. Then you can ask about her IQ & GPA.
Marks Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Just because she is partying & hanging out a fraternity party doesn't automatically make her dumb. Worry about liking her & connecting with her. Then you can ask about her IQ & GPA. Sure, but would he really want to go out with girls who are partying and hanging out with frat guys? For that matter, would they want to hang out with him? I was an Econ & Math double major not so long ago, so I got to see both worlds. Few girls in the math classes (who were either pretty down-to-earth looking and taken or super nerdy) and plenty of cute girls in the econ classes, many of whom liked to party and were in sororities and only hung out with the frat bros. And sure, some of them were pretty smart, but they were also pretty spacey.
Barbarossa Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I'm minoring in psychology and typically about 75% of those courses are filled with women. It's all a numbers game take some psych classes it's the most popular major for women.
Trnamakesnse Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I found them in clubs, also the library. Don't go to the quiet areas and expect anyone to talk though.
Emilia Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Well, as a physics major, i suspect that your idea of "intelligent" is myopic. You want to be in a better position to meet "intelligent" women, don't spend your entire time around engineering/physics buildings, clubs, activities. so true
Mrlonelyone Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Outnumbered, but not always taken. I was in such classes and, although I was taken, I had single female friends. They eventually got hitched but not to guys in the class, but rather to guys outside it who actually asked them out. None of the guys in class did. Taken does not have to mean a serious or deep relationship. If a young man is scared off by the fact a young attractive woman has been on one or two "kinda sorta dates" with a guy he will never get a truly attractive girlfriend. The cute ones are always being asked out and taken out and constantly pursued/pined over. My last ex who I met at school, and had a relationship up to meeting the parents with was had also been seeing someone else as did I. There are shades of grey between 100% taken and 100% free.
StanMusial Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Females in the STEM curriculum are rare. I recall a conversation I had with a couple of ladies at work once. The one lady had been in the computer science program at a large university. I remember mentioning something like "you must've had plenty of guys to choose from". She said "No, they were all nerdy and dorks". 3
Els Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Taken does not have to mean a serious or deep relationship. If a young man is scared off by the fact a young attractive woman has been on one or two "kinda sorta dates" with a guy he will never get a truly attractive girlfriend. The cute ones are always being asked out and taken out and constantly pursued/pined over. My last ex who I met at school, and had a relationship up to meeting the parents with was had also been seeing someone else as did I. There are shades of grey between 100% taken and 100% free. Uh.... yes, but I was responding to your post that women in STEM are 'always taken'. They are not. Those girls were 100% single and none of the guys in class asked them out. The issue wasn't with the girls either, they were clearly 'good enough' for other guys to ask them out. So, what I am trying to say is, don't just assume that all women in a male-dominated class/field are taken just because they are outnumbered.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Females in the STEM curriculum are rare. I recall a conversation I had with a couple of ladies at work once. The one lady had been in the computer science program at a large university. I remember mentioning something like "you must've had plenty of guys to choose from". She said "No, they were all nerdy and dorks". What was she...and after all that time was she still single?
StanMusial Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 What was she...and after all that time was she still single? She was a nice lady, I liked working with her generally. She was married to some redneck. When I was in school there were only a handful of ladies in our program. They were all engaged or had a long time bf. Party girls don't typically study CS.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 (edited) She was a nice lady, I liked working with her generally. She was married to some redneck. When I was in school there were only a handful of ladies in our program. They were all engaged or had a long time bf. Party girls don't typically study CS. I was asking more along the lines of if those guys were geeks what was she? I've noticed some women in STEM will choose a non STEM man then moan when he does not get what they do. Anyway OP this goes to show you some intelligent women will for whatever reason pass on a man of similar mind. Maybe the guy is just that great. More likely he represents all those "cool kids" that previously rejected her. That's one kind of intelligent woman to run away from. Just as many intelligent men will pass on intelligent women in favor of women who are relatively uneducated. You can't really control these things. Just keep you eyes open in class, get involved in activities outside of class, last don't limit yourself to campus. One of the more intelligent women I met as an undergrad was not even in college and was a struggling artist back then. Edited January 17, 2014 by Mrlonelyone
Avulare Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 When you figure out where to find fun, cute, and intelligent women, please tell me where it is. I want to see if they have any fun, cute, intelligent guys in stock. 2
WrinkledForehead Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Hmmmmm. Try the waitresses at local restaurants. I'm a server and so many of my coworkers are in school. It's not uncommon for patrons and their server to engage in general chit-chat, either, and being a student is often brought up. It's how I met my boyfriend. I was serving and he was a regular I hadn't met. He usually sat in the other part of the establishment but the hostess sat him on my side that night. I liked him immediately, and for both of us, discovering we have a shared passion for the sciences compounded the attraction. Its worth a shot. good luck!
Els Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I want to see if they have any fun, cute, intelligent guys in stock. I met mine at a mutual interest society in college, if that is any help. 1
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