devastated777 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Just an update to let all you peeps know that it has been 3 months (this Saturday) and I am feeling so much better now. I was absolutely blind sided by being dumped by my soulmate for someone else but hey, it's just how he rolls. 45 years old and never married, come on. (No offense to anyone, jus sayin). Other people that knew him, were like, "oh so you finally see how he is?" Wish someone had given me heads up. I have met quite a few awesome guys during the last three months, all the while, making it clear that I just want to be friends and am finding myself right now. Zero interest in a relationship BUT there is one guy that is pretty special and he is so sweet and charming that I am really starting to dig him. He is very patient and I swear I don't know what he sees in me but he seems to be smitten and I am too. Just worried about the timing being a bit too soon. I am going to take it very slow though and he seems so cool with that. Although I have not given him any details. I don't see the need in burdening him with my baggage. He knows the highlights and that's all he needs to know, for now. I am really beginning to see the light here. I start my orientation and training classes Monday, and upon completion, I will get to be a volunteer for Hospice and work with patients. I am very anxious/excited about that. I am reading books about being co-dependant right now and am going to begin working out Saturday. I need to work on my drinking but I figure I will be replacing that with my volunteer work and working out so Im excited about saving drinking for weekends only. This Monday will be 2 weeks of NC and I truly do feel better. Just wanted to let you people know, who are new to this and have all these questions about will they regret it and how long the pain lasts. It is an earth shatterer but honestly, in time, you will feel better and NC is the gospel. Do it. TRUST ME and everyone else on here. Thanks everyone, Barky2, Haydn, Zahara, Poly(cant remember the rest) and Mtn biker, etc. There are so many more to mention so forgive me if I left any out. I will continue to come on here though but my urge to break NC has been consistent over the last week and I really feel no urge now. No sense. It's finally sunk into my head that he was not who I thought. So be it. 3
Author devastated777 Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 I left off Fufu and Mariposa. There are so many more. Forgive me guys! You guys rock! 1
LostConfused123 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I'm SOOOOO happy for you!!! it's so exciting to see someone kinda "say goodbye" I don't mean that in a bad way. . . Hahaha!!! I for one, will miss you but I couldn't be happier that you made it to the other side!!! I'm crying tears of joy because I wish you all the best and can't wait until I get there too! Best of luck!!! ((hugs!!))
Author devastated777 Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 Lostconfused, you are so awesome! Thank you so much for your kind words. I will still be on here though. I like this site. It keeps fueling me; I just feel a little more "unbroken" I guess you could say. 1
JDPT Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Rock on, proud of you as your journey to happiness continues. 1
Mariposa10 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I am so proud of you and happy to hear how much you're working on your recovery. This is just the beginning, you'll start feeling better and better. Keep us updated!! 2
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