Pinky32 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 (edited) Me and this guy were together for 1 year, he is very much younger than me, he is a really nice guy and he spends all his time with me, we go places together we hang out together, he is not a partier with the fellas he would rather spend that time with me. We live together, my kids are attached to him but they aren't super crazy about him because there is alot he could work on....he has no kids of his own so this was all new to him when we first hooked up. Okay so i called it off with him because I need help financially....he has no job because of his felony and the way he makes his money isn't safe so therefore I was putting myself and children in jeopardy. So I wasn't feeling that anymore and sure as heck stayed worried about where I lay my head at night, and I got so sick and tired of basically holding everything down by myself. I felt like if I was doing it all by myself then I mine as well be by myself...he helped very little when he could, provided food and helped me once with my utilities which was a lump sum, and he provides with the little things here and there like household goods, But that just wasn't enough. I got sick of it, plus I feel by me being older than him I have a rude awakening in the future when he leaves me for a younger chic.....but now I feel so aweful because he tried...but not his best or hard enough to get a job. he did more surfing on the net then actually going out to apply in person for jobs. I feel so guilty, am I wrong, should I had given him a little more time to get his life on track? Edited January 16, 2014 by Pinky32 typo and forgot info
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 "Felony and the way he makes his money isn't safe" That is more than enough reason to end this. That ALONE is enough. You risk too much with him. He won't work, and is a bum. You need help. You cannot wait forever for him. Instead, you did the right thing by ridding him out of your life. I would never date a person who could risk my or my kids safety. You did well. 2
Haydn Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Let him get his life on track without you. If he wants to do this he can. Maybe you will see a `new` him emerge. Don`t feel guilty, your kids come first. If he cannot pick himself up without you then you did the right thing. Stability is very important.
Author Pinky32 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 "Felony and the way he makes his money isn't safe" That is more than enough reason to end this. That ALONE is enough. You risk too much with him. He won't work, and is a bum. You need help. You cannot wait forever for him. Instead, you did the right thing by ridding him out of your life. I would never date a person who could risk my or my kids safety. You did well. Thank you....I was thinking the same thing, that I was actually doing the best thing for my children. That was a bit of relief advice from you. Thanks again 1
Author Pinky32 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 Let him get his life on track without you. If he wants to do this he can. Maybe you will see a `new` him emerge. Don`t feel guilty, your kids come first. If he cannot pick himself up without you then you did the right thing. Stability is very important. You are so right, he needs to get his life on track w/o me. And yes your right he sure can if he's determined and focused to. Thank you so much
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Thank you....I was thinking the same thing, that I was actually doing the best thing for my children. That was a bit of relief advice from you. Thanks again Anytime. Always glad to help when I can. As well, I would never in the future date a guy who is into something bad. I know you didn't know any of this at first. I just wouldn't stick around for long after knowing. Stay safe. And find a real man, a better one. You and your kids deserve better.
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