blackpajamas Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 After dating for about a month, I'm starting to think that texting every day could be too much communication. Usually the lady I'm seeing and I text everyday, maybe only five or six texts throughout the course of the day, rather light conversation. I'm starting to think that some of these stories we're exchanging should be saved for when we are actually together. Granted, there's been some car trouble on her part and we both run busy schedules, so we've only been seeing each other usually once a week, so I think our current level of communication is the result of that. What's everyone's opinions on daily communication?
soccerrprp Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Daily communications is very helpful and preferred, but no desperately required. If texting, don't discuss anything too important and involved. That should be left for a conversation over the phone or in person. 2
Philosoraptor Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Do what feels natural. It's not going to feel the same for every person you meet. But the more you over think and put yourself into a box, the more likely you are to sabotage your chances. Just trust yourself to make the right decisions for whatever particular situation you are in. 1
mammasita Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 My BF and I text all throughout the day, every day from morning until bedtime..... I like alot of texting and dislike phone conversations so that's how we are. It depends on you and whats comfortable......everyone is different. If you feel like it's too much then maybe it's too much, but is it too much for her? 2
Mascara Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I agree, once you're an established couple I prefer to stay in touch, just exchanging daily life is what keeps you close when you're apart. My boyfriend and I text several times throughout the day, and usually have a quick phone call too. 1
Mascara Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Last year I broke up with someone because I never heard from him between dates, and I lost interest. So not sure where that fits in with your theories. 2
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 If anybody consistently sent me 5-6 texts per day I'd block their number. I don't have time for that. If you want to talk to me, call me once. Better yet, spend time with me. However, you two have fallen into this pattern. You like it. It's comfortable for you. If you stop now without discussing it with her, she will interpret it as lack of interest. 2
salparadise Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 It just depends on the people. The woman I'm dating now doesn't seem to need constant communication so we talk every other day or every third day. We seldom text anymore. I have to initiate. In my previous relationship we were all about communication and we talked on the phone 1-2 hours every night. We'd text before calling to set a time to call. She initiated about half the time. I like for a woman to do her share of initiating rather than sitting passively, waiting for me to call, and me wondering if I'm calling too often or not enough. We were talking once about people being too clingy or too distant. I said that I hoped I wasn't being too clingy and she laughed and said, you don't need to worry about that; if anything you're on the opposite end of that scale. So I told her that she doesn't need to wait for me to call––if she wants to talk let me know. She still waits even though I know she'd like me to call more often. Why do women think it's not ok to initiate, even after you've been dating awhile?
newmoon Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 it totally depends on the two people. I prefer to just be in touch every 3 days or so with a call, and a text here and there. daily contact for me is too much, I would rather share stories in person. a good way to judge if you're texting a girl too much could be by the length of time it takes to get a response. faster = usually more interested in talking/texting/communicating... if many hours, or half a day go by without a response then she might not need as much contact as you're giving
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 That's not "communication" in my book, it's what you talk about, not how much you talk. But I get what you're saying...personally that's more needy/clingy type behavior, I'm not one of those people who just shoots a text or makes a phone call to say hello and talk about some mundane thing...at least 5 to 6 times a day...I'd see the person before doing all that if I really wanted to be around...if it's once in a while or just really fun to do it that's one thing but it's not like an ongoing thing I'd ever want to do to sustain that...way too much talking.
Barbarossa Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 If anybody consistently sent me 5-6 texts per day I'd block their number. I don't have time for that. If you want to talk to me, call me once. Better yet, spend time with me. Couldn't have said it better myself I feel smothered by people who contact me constantly. My best friend sends hundred of texts to his girl a day so to each their own.
isisisweeping Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Uhoh, I text everyone that much, friends, dates.. No one has ever said anything about being annoyed. If they don't respond In short order, I take it as a cue to text less. The guys I'm most interested in an interest builds verse wanes communicate more.
mercuryshadow Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I think it's normal, at first, to communicate like that, especially if you don't see each other all the time. Once you start to see each other more frequently, I'd advise to save the good stories for when you're together, to keep things interesting!
nerdlingZA Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Well there's this girl whose into me (she's pretty) who used to text me on facebook (inbox) everyday asking the things she asks everday e.g "how was your day" , "what did u do ?" That's irratated the crap out of me. TEXTING IS **** , I Don't Recommend it. Rather Call then text.
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