BruisedBNBroken Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 A little over 2 months NC. Been trying to do everything "right" - complete NC including no social media stalking, deleted everything, exercising, eating well, focusing on my young boys, hanging with friends. I was doing really, really well, almost having long stretches of not thinking about him. Suddenly over the last week or so, it's like I'm back to square one, even worse potentially. Constantly thinking about him, obsessing about moments and conversations, crazy urge to break NC, panic attacks out of nowhere thinking about him. This is crazy. I understand about one step forward two steps back but this is like two steps forward, five hundred steps back. Help!! 1
TaraMaiden Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 It takes 21 days to form a lasting habit. It can take a lifetime to break them. You're getting withdrawal symptoms. And not only is that perfectly OK, it's also perfectly normal. About the 2-month mark is right.... NC is cold-turkey for the heart, it has been said, many times. But believe me, breaking NC, like succumbing to that 'fix' - would set you back, and make you miserable, all over again. Fight through it, shoulder to the boulder. You'll be fine. 3
LostConfused123 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I'm at almost 3 months and I feel like I've hit a plateau. I'm not shattered like I was in the first few weeks but I'm not really back to my old self either. . . . I kinda feel "haunted" if that makes sense. I don't really feel like I'm making any progress (lately, I mean) but I guess I must be ??? I'm glad you shared. I was worried I was the only one. Best of luck in your recovery
jphcbpa Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I'm at almost 3 months and I feel like I've hit a plateau. I'm not shattered like I was in the first few weeks but I'm not really back to my old self either. . . . I kinda feel "haunted" if that makes sense. I don't really feel like I'm making any progress (lately, I mean) but I guess I must be ??? I'm glad you shared. I was worried I was the only one. Best of luck in your recovery I would try to look at this like you are going to build a new life. forget the former self. let this be your time to grow and be a newer better version of you. 1
jennysuzie Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Im glad you started this thread, i too thought i was the only one!! Its the emotional rollercoaster we are all on, highs and lows. They will eventually even out. Trust in yourself, you might feel like you are going backwards but these are the times when you need to dig deep and remember theres a good day coming soon 1
HeartinPain Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I am about to hit 2 months of NC. Still feel sad everyday, but thinking about him less obsessively now. I did have a crying breakdown this past weekend from a random trigger. It didn't last that long, but I was disappointed that it happened.
LLQ1986 Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 2 months... i'm not even a quarter way there. Almost 2 weeks since my BU. and now it's only the 2nd day of my NC. But i'm not crying anymore (I hardly cried anyways). I got extremely lonely at night and moody in the morning.
RDawg Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 Just over the three month mark and I have been very weepy this week. It's good to cry and get it all out. I can't wait till a year is passed, then I can see her again .
jphcbpa Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I am about to hit 2 months of NC. Still feel sad everyday, but thinking about him less obsessively now. I did have a crying breakdown this past weekend from a random trigger. It didn't last that long, but I was disappointed that it happened. do not be disappointed....see it as part of the healing process. let the feelings surface when they want to. do not hold them back. I think of crying as liquid prayers. 1
Author BruisedBNBroken Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 Thanks everyone. Feeling a little better this weekend after my kids two day soccer tournament. Kept the focus on them and friends this weekend. It really helps to hear other people's experiences with the 2/3 month mark as well.
Calli154 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I'm also at the 2/3 mark. I think its hard because the shock is wearing off and reality is settling in. I've been in the dumps all week. Stay strong 1
Recommended Posts