rov Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I met a girl through tinder on sunday and she gave me her whatsapp and we chatted for three days, on tuesday I asked her if she wanted to go for a coffee on wednesday and she told me that that she would text me to fix the hour and place. I thought that she was not going to to put in contact with me to go to the coffee but what was my surprise yesterday that she texted me and told me that she would like to meet me at 5:30 pm at a local coffee shop. So I went and we spent almost two hours in the coffee, we had a good time. At the end she told me that she had a good time with me. I sent her a text 20 minutes later telling her that i had a good time with her and I asked her if she bought her medicines for a cold she had and she only answered: Im seeing that.... When I saw this response I said to myself: maybe she is not interested in me, so then I sent her a text and I asked her what was she doing and she did not answers and she was online in whatsapp a long period. I made a last attempt and i told her that i was going to sleep and that I was glad to meet her and she answered: have a good rest to night!. me too!!. Im thinking in inviting her today for dinner on saturday?. Would it be too soon?. I read that there are no dating rules and that I should avoid playing games. any advice?
MidwestUSA Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Saturday is perfect; it's 'premium time' as far as dating goes. Be straight up, with a definite time and place in mind. Do it as soon as possible today.
Author rov Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 If I invite her today to go for dinner on saturday will I look needy, yesterday it was our first date. Should I wait more days or should I tell her today straight up without playing games?
MidwestUSA Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I would ask her, but tell her you realize it's sort of short notice. Have a backup date in mind, maybe one evening next week, or the weekend. No, you won't look needy, you look like you're interested in a girl you had a nice time with! We LIKE knowing a man wants to see us again! 1
Iguanna Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 She doesn't seem that much excited for having met you. The texts she sent were like an obligation to answer and to be polite. I'd keep contact and ask her out on sunday instead of saturday, just for the reason that people always have plans on saturday and you would feel bad if she declined.
Author rov Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 I sent her today a text message saying good morning and asking if she felt better from the cold she had and she has not answered yet. I sent the message more than an hour ago and she has been online in whatsapp since then several times so its more than obvious that she doesn't want to answer me
Eau Claire Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I would ask her, but tell her you realize it's sort of short notice. Have a backup date in mind, maybe one evening next week, or the weekend. No, you won't look needy, you look like you're interested in a girl you had a nice time with! We LIKE knowing a man wants to see us again! This. Make a woman feel special. We want to be made to feel special. A woman is into you or she isn't. Go for it. The best approach is the simplest. 'I enjoyed our time together and would like to see you again'. If she likes you she will give some variation of a 'yes'. If not, either 'no' or some delay remark.
PegNosePete Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 she has been online in whatsapp since then several times Jeez dude stop stalking her!!! Just pick up the phone and ask if she wants to go out with you on Saturday. If she says yes then good. If she says she'd love to but she has plans how about Sunday, then good as well. If she says no or she's busy without making a counter-offer then she is not interested so just move on. When did this get so difficult! 1
MidwestUSA Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I sent her today a text message saying good morning and asking if she felt better from the cold she had and she has not answered yet. I sent the message more than an hour ago and she has been online in whatsapp since then several times so its more than obvious that she doesn't want to answer me I'm guessing this text didn't include asking her out for Saturday? What are you waiting for? Give her something she'll feel obligated to reply to, and ignore Whassup. What PegNose said!
the tank Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I am free monday and friday. Wanna join me for ''name of activity''. I invite mine the day after our first date. but we will only meet in two weeks because of her busy schedule at hospital. If the girl like you but cant make it the day you ask. She will tell wich days are fine for her. good luck
Phantom888 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Do you come off as "thinking too much?" You would be a lot less nervous if you didn't care so much. I mean you like her....and she can sense that. If you want to invite her sooner, do it. If not, then wait. But here's the thing, there is no point in pretending you are not needy when you are. Women can sense that. If you don't really care what she thinks, women can sense that too. Don't fall into the mind games. Just be yourself. Whatever happens is far beyond your control, so you might as just enjoy it.
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