stealingscouser Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Hey guys first poster here! Basically, me and my ex split up after 6 years. As you can imagine the reason im on here is because i want to be with her, i know getting back with an ex is a bad idea etc and that it never works but everyone is different and i would kick myself for not trying. shes a great girl, smart, pretty and kind. it was just a difficult time during the break up with being at uni and petty arguments. Im 23 and shes 21. She has exams now for university and i sent her a genuine message wishing her luck with a picture of my dog to cheer her up (she loves my dog). Again this was genuine and not trying to intrude as I accept the breakup etc. She replied saying thank you, hows your family etc and good luck with whatever youre doing, again just being friendly and casual. this has continued for a few messages and she sent one saying she would sponsor me to shave my head for charity, i said thank you and she asked for the link and i havent replied. I dont really know where im going with this haha just needed to ask people what they think i should do? should i stop messaging her as im not over her at all. i really miss her in her life and its one of those you dont know what youve got till its gone things. During the break up early on i did the whole begging thing which was ridiculously embarassing. I hadnt spoke to her for a month up until the message saying good luck. like i said i havent replied to her recent message as im not deluded into thinking anything can happen from it but i do really miss her in my life. even seeing her picture on facebook gave me that heart falling out my ass feeling. cheers guys sorry for the rant! a womans perspective on this would be appreciated!
mammasita Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 You want to be with her. She doesn't want to be with you. You continuing to be her "friend" will only hurt, no torture, you. 1
AlexfromBoston Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 You really just need to disappear from her life for a few weeks. Six years is a long time and 3-4 weeks of NC will probably draw her closer. Trust me, give her space and let her miss you.
MNLP Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I am going though something similar right now with my ex. We dated for 2 1/2 months but were the most serious relationship we both have had. She ended things because she was not ready for as serious of a relationship as we had. After a month apart we started talking again and are working on trying to be friends. I still have some feelings for her, but we get along too well to just throw everything away. My feelings on this is: Only way to make anything happen as far as relationships both friends and romantic go is that you have to make yourself vulnerable. It is scary and you can get hurt. But if you really care about this person and want to see if something could happen in the future. By all means. Try to be friends with them.
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